Do you support gender non-conforming men when they don’t exist for your entertainment? When it isn’t the shock-and-awe, punk “irony” of smeared lipstick and a beard, or the polished showmanship of drag? Do you support the GNC men whose femininity isn’t a joke? Or do you feel on some level that men are only entitled to femininity if it’s strictly a performance? Do you still expect feminine men to uphold traditional masculinity to be respected? Are you only allowing these men to exist as caricatures?
Do you support gender non-conforming women when they don’t appeal to your aesthetics? When it isn’t meticulously tailored suits and expensive haircuts? Do you support the GNC women who can’t afford or don’t want to be “dapper” or fashionable? Or do you feel on some level that women are only entitled to masculinity so long as they’re still “making an effort”? Do you still expect masculine women to uphold traditional femininity to be respected? Do you still think women exist to be looked at?
Are you genuinely unlearning sexist rhetoric and dismantling gender expectations, or are you just enforcing it in ways you’re unable to recognize because you’ve tricked yourself into thinking your community is too woke and clever to fall victim to it?
a gender that feels peaceful, placid, calming, but full of love.
I was able to find the definition of the term Calmogender, but I couldn’t access any tumblr posts mentioning it. Google says that it is available somewhere on @variant-archive, so he might be able to help you. 🙂
Calmogender is defined as:
a gender that feels calm, quiet, and peaceful. It is related to Calmarefluid and is from Italian “calmo” meaning “calm”.
Listletic, as a word that ends in “-ic”, can generally be used to refer to any gender, or lack of, unless otherwise specified in the definition, which is not; it describes a type of experience, not the nature of one’s gender. For example, one could describe themselves as a Listletic and Agender (or any other genderless identity).
If none of these suffice, send me another message and I can help you coin a term for this, because I am not aware of a specific term that describes a tranquil, harmonious genderlessness.
Complexgender: A combination of two genders which are arranged as
axes, and the resultant gender is a point on the plane formed by them,
like a complex number.
I really like this term, so I am going to discuss the definition, what it means and how it works.
Above is an representation of a complex number, which is defined as a number with a real and imaginary portion, which can be expressed using the general form a+bi. The variable a represents real numbers, where bi represents imaginary numbers. The variable i is equivalent to the sqrt of -1, or i^2 being equivalent to -1. b exists on an axis of imaginary numbers and exists on axis of real numbers. If plotted, as shown above, a point can be made where (a,bi) occurs.
To relate this to gender, imagine that variable a is one gender and variable bi is another. At (a,bi), the point resulting from the two, is the Complexgender that is defined above.
This definition does not take this into account, but to take the mathematical concept further, the imaginary axis could be likened to the negatrois spectrum, where the real axis could represent the positrois spectrum, with one variable representing a given antigender or ungender and another variable representing a given, potentially dissimilar, eugender.
The male-agender-female line and the imagigender line are perpendicular
to each other, overlapping at the zero point. You can be male and an
imagigender at the same time and this would basically be a point on the
complex gender plane.
Imagigender is defined as:
An alternate gender line that is perpendicular to the male-female gender
line. Just as imaginary numbers range from minus infinity*i to zero to
plus infinity*i, the imagigender line ranges from one imaginary gender
to agender to a second imaginary gender.
I suppose this means if we were to connect the Complex Gender Plane, Imagigender and Complexgender, that an imaginary gender is a sort of Altegender, but not necessarily an antigender.
Does anyone else have thoughts on this?
I was looking for the antonyms of primary/primus and found out simplex is the antonym of complex. Complex meaning not one, as it could represent anything besides 1. However it sometimes get specifically called multiplex vs uniplex or monoplex. Polyplex with polymers.
So complex: not simple or not single. I personally flow oscillating between positives and negatives sometimes but other times I’m just distinguishing my nullity with ambivalence.
Planckgender: Similar to Pixelgender in that it seems like the smallest quantifiable amount of a gender experience, but it is not so; it’s just that any amount smaller does not make sense to the individual.
Etymology
Referring to Planck’s constant, h, “Planck”, a constant used in Physics, equal to the energy of a quantum of
electromagnetic radiation divided by its frequency, with a value of
6.626 × 10−34 joule-seconds + “-gender”, an English neologistic suffix indicating genderedness. Coined by a submitter, “Suggestions!!!!” via ask-pride-color-schemes, 2017.
Flag
Prior to this post, there was no flag for Planckgender. So, I went ahead and made one. This flag has a color scheme derived from the Pixelgender flag made by user pridearchive in 2016. The first four stripes are taken directly from the Pixelgender flag. The other two stripes were added to describe the distinguishing features from Pixelgender. This flag consists of six, horizontal, solid-colored stripes. From top to bottom, they are medium grey, light grey, white, mustard yellow, medium brown and very dark brown. The greys of the Pixelgender flag represent partial genderedness, white represents the lack of gender and the mustard yellow represents the “pixel” of genderedness. The brown stripe represents the inability to conceptualize a smaller measurement of gender. The very dark brown stripe represents the
infinitesimal quantity represented in this term that is indeed so small, that it is almost imperceptible. Flag by Gent (Gender-Resource), 2020.
Travelic: A slightly or fully fluid gender that feels like it’s always traveling or can’t stay in one place for too long. It’s constantly moving and picking up bits of “culture” or souvenirs from wherever it travels. It sometimes has to stop and get “gas” filling it with aspects of one or more other genders.
Travelic: A slightly or fully fluid gender that feels like it’s always traveling or can’t stay in one place for too long. It’s constantly moving and picking up bits of “culture” or souvenirs from wherever it travels. It sometimes has to stop and get “gas” filling it with aspects of one or more other genders.
7 common exam/finals problems and how to avoid them:
1. didn’t perform well as you were up all night cramming? work on study schedules that work for you, with breaks, that guarantee this doesn’t happen again
2. turned up late as you got lost or got stuck in traffic? plan and practice your routine, leave plenty of time!
3. spent too much time on one question? set yourself a time mark after which you move on to the next question. better to try and answer all questions than to only answer half of them.
4. dehydration headache? set your bottle of water next to your study space and mark how much you should drink by the hour
5. feel tired and fatigued and can’t concentrate? plan your meals and find a nice breakfast meal that works for you. it’s so important to eat and drink in the morning!
6. revised before the exam, panicked and couldn’t focus? don’t revise right before it. schedule your team to have at least the day before the exam off.
7. got too nervous on an oral exam? simulate the experience as much as possible. with friends, your partner, family. even when revising, practice answering the question out loud. the more often you do this, the better.
Stephonic: Agender connected to Stephon Meyers from SNL. It also has connections to club life, being overtly flirty and/or sexual, and being oddly endearing despite slightly socially unacceptable qualities. Only for Stephon Meyers introjects. Not a kin gender
Colors:
Red ~ Connection to flintiness and sexuality
Yellow ~ Likeability
Blue ~ Connection to being a gay man
Dark purple ~ Connection to club life and the club scene
or hétre {héter-/hétr- [post form of hétro/hétero] suffixed with -e, since -o- is the mainstream interfix, with masculine grammatical gender in some languages when suffixed (-o)}
Definition: feeling your attraction is hétera/hétra (fem vers of straight), but in a non-binary/gender-neutral/neolingual way.
It shares similarities with strayt in anglophonic terminology, (co)incidentally with viade as a lusophonic thing.
It was used as in imperative somewhere/at other places (specifically hetere/hetre).
Unrelated to being a g0y/gøy or a g0l/gøl. But just as them, it’s regardless of nationality/subculture plus nonpersons (apatrids/anatrids/axatrids/amatrids/azatrids).
They can self-identify as either not LGBT and/or not cishet, be «‹in›between» both, neither and/or beyond those things.
It’s an identity variancy or variance, not essentially an act of dissidence, intersectionally saying. This could represent gender non-conformity as well, or a form of queer heterosexuality/hetero-identity or heteroattraction/heteroaffectionacy in generalization.
It is/could be adherently gay, it’s not mutually exclusive with anything else. Might be compared with hipster-. Still not derived from slurs. Definitely not a (g)QIN/(g)QUIN identity.
I decided to whip up a genderqueer gal version (left) of the genderqueer guy flag (right) designed by @positivelygenderqueerguy.
As you can see I took a dark pinky-purple colour for the top stripe and a light pinky-purple for the second stripe but I kept the other colours the same only with inverted meanings. I did this to show their similarity, in the same way the demiboy and demigirl flags are identical bar the blue and pink stripes.
If you use the flag for something please do let me know – I would love to see! Credit however isn’t necessary.
for all the people who have messaged me looking for a genderqueer gal flag, here’s one!!
Blue represents acespecs and arospecs (meaning from oriented aroace by @biaroace), vivid orange all a- spectrums (concept by @friendbot) and flag format by @trans-cinderella.
Complexgender: A combination of two genders which are arranged as
axes, and the resultant gender is a point on the plane formed by them,
like a complex number.
I really like this term, so I am going to discuss the definition, what it means and how it works.
Above is an representation of a complex number, which is defined as a number with a real and imaginary portion, which can be expressed using the general form a+bi. The variable a represents real numbers, where bi represents imaginary numbers. The variable i is equivalent to the sqrt of -1, or i^2 being equivalent to -1. b exists on an axis of imaginary numbers and exists on axis of real numbers. If plotted, as shown above, a point can be made where (a,bi) occurs.
To relate this to gender, imagine that variable a is one gender and variable bi is another. At (a,bi), the point resulting from the two, is the Complexgender that is defined above.
This definition does not take this into account, but to take the mathematical concept further, the imaginary axis could be likened to the negatrois spectrum, where the real axis could represent the positrois spectrum, with one variable representing a given antigender or ungender and another variable representing a given, potentially dissimilar, eugender.
The male-agender-female line and the imagigender line are perpendicular
to each other, overlapping at the zero point. You can be male and an
imagigender at the same time and this would basically be a point on the
complex gender plane.
Imagigender is defined as:
An alternate gender line that is perpendicular to the male-female gender
line. Just as imaginary numbers range from minus infinity*i to zero to
plus infinity*i, the imagigender line ranges from one imaginary gender
to agender to a second imaginary gender.
I suppose this means if we were to connect the Complex Gender Plane, Imagigender and Complexgender, that an imaginary gender is a sort of Altegender, but not necessarily an antigender.
or hétre {héter-/hétr- [post form of hétro/hétero] suffixed with -e, since -o- is the mainstream interfix, with masculine grammatical gender in some languages when suffixed (-o)}
Definition: feeling your attraction is hétera/hétra (fem vers of straight), but in a non-binary/gender-neutral/neolingual way.
It shares similarities with strayt in anglophonic terminology, (co)incidentally with viade as a lusophonic thing.
It was used as in imperative somewhere/at other places (specifically hetere/hetre).
Unrelated to being a g0y/gøy or a g0l/gøl. But just as them, it’s regardless of nationality/subculture plus nonpersons (apatrids/anatrids/axatrids/amatrids/azatrids).
They can self-identify as either not LGBT and/or not cishet, be «‹in›between» both, neither and/or beyond those things.
It’s an identity variancy or variance, not essentially an act of dissidence, intersectionally saying. This could represent gender non-conformity as well, or a form of queer heterosexuality/hetero-identity or heteroattraction/heteroaffectionacy in generalization.
It is/could be adherently gay, it’s not mutually exclusive with anything else. Might be compared with hipster-. Still not derived from slurs. Definitely not a (g)QIN/(g)QUIN identity.
Based on this asexual flag, with no white stripe (which represented allo allies). Blue representing aroaceness as in theseflags. [ID: 3 stripes with black, blue and grey]
If I ever mislabel anything, please let me know! Not every post is a coining post, so sometimes I might not know/forget an aspect of a definition or may be confusing the label with different one.
Hyperlinks will be added as things post! Please disregard the underscores (“_”). Mobile acts weird when posts are updated with links so it’s just a trick to get around it.
[combo] – flags that are a mix of 2+ identities/groups (e.g. sapphic aspec), but not combos like edit blogs make (i.e. 2+ flags layered on top of each other)
[edit] – proposed variations of existing flags that aren’t significant enough to be classified as a redesign imo; additions to existing flags (e.g. adding Philly Pride Stripes).
[flag list] – several flags given, w/ or w/o linked sources
[meaning not defined] – color/symbol meanings not provided in post, but meanings may exist so check with the OP; flags whose colors were picked from an image are included because I’m not sure if that would really be considered a meaning for the orientation/gender/other or just the described coloring method; for filtering purposes only, not a judgement of flag quality or its creator(s) (I forgot about this tag so there’s a lot I didn’t tag this that technically should be)
[my flags] – flags I’ve created on this blog and from other blogs.
“The pink triange was used in n*azi camps and I’m using it to reclaim it. The hyacinth is about the mythological figure of Hyacinthus, who had a relationship with Apollo, was loved by Zephyr, and Thamyris, the first man to love another man. The lavender is a reference to the lavender scare and the lavender lads — once again, something I think should be reclaimed (and already has been for years by lesbians. We need to catch up) — and the white line is symbolic of pure love, to contrast the idea that mlm love is fetishistic and predatory.”
Love this. A lot of gay men might enjoy (including me).
“The pink triange was used in n*azi camps and I’m using it to reclaim it. The hyacinth is about the mythological figure of Hyacinthus, who had a relationship with Apollo, was loved by Zephyr, and Thamyris, the first man to love another man. The lavender is a reference to the lavender scare and the lavender lads — once again, something I think should be reclaimed (and already has been for years by lesbians. We need to catch up) — and the white line is symbolic of pure love, to contrast the idea that mlm love is fetishistic and predatory.”
Abro- (sexual/romantic/etc): when someone’s attraction/sexuality fluctuates
I was creating an abro button design and couldn’t find a symbol to represent the sexuality! So, I decided to make one!
The gender symbols are separated to indicate movement and change. They can be customized per abro person (their gender and their individual fluctuating attraction to certain genders)!
For those who label their fluctuations with sexuality labels (gay, pan, etc), perhaps interlocking those existing symbols in a similar way to the symbols above could represent abrosexuality!
Please like and reblog, and feel free to leave any feedback (abro folx especially welcome!) so I can update it if needed! Hope you enjoy!
💚🤍💖
[Image Description: A symbol to represent abro people including the male, female, and nonbinary symbols interlocking with gaps in between them to indicate movement. There are four versions pictured: white with black background, black with transparent background, abrosexual flag colored with black background, and abrosexual flag colored with transparent background.]
being two-spirit is self-defined, and i personally use the term as a native person to describe both my romantic attraction/sexuality and gender identity, in the same way some ppl label themselves as queer. if i were going to list out all the western labels that fit me, the list would include trans, nonbinary, genderfluid, polysexual, and aromantic. but i dont like western labels, and i prefer to use queer or two-spirit because i feel like those suit me best, two-spirit especially because being native is often the thing i feel like most represents who i am in my identity.
not every tribe or indigenous group has a concept of two-spirit, and some tribes have even regarded gender ambiguity or queerness of any kind as ‘evil’, while some others were evangelized/radicalized by colonizers and currently follow christian teachings and perpetuate colonialism within their own societies, so it’s important to remember that we are not a homogenous group or race, every tribe is different. two-spirit is more or less part of the pan-indigenous movement, though, and was coined by lgbtq+ native folks ~1990. any first nations indigenous person can claim two-spirit as an identity label, even if their tribe didn’t historically recognize something like it.
there is a really good video about it here that i think does a good job of explaining the label and why it is used.
just remember that two-spirit, like any queer identity label, is self-defined so if you’re looking for a clear-cut definition of two-spirit, just know that the “answers” that exist in books and on the internet are usually one-sided and sometimes written by colonizers who have a narrow grasp of what it means to be queer and indigenous.
also: two-spirit does not mean “bisexual” or “bigender” which is what i’ve seen a lot of non natives say, essentially, when explaining it to other non natives. which is frustrating.
Sapatrans refers to sapatona transgênera ou sapatão transgênero. It’s used by trans sapphics and transbutch/transmasculine femarics (attracted to women). As you can see in LBT+ facebook communities (there was a bigger group of sapa transfems but I can’t find anymore, but you can search through fb if you want). It can be its own identity transfeminity. Some claim it has peripheral conotations (periférica or more specifically favelada), since some use it as a marginalized group dissidence.
Sapa (shortened), in anglophone «and/or “North-spheric”/“Westerner”» terms, is compared to the “d slur” denotations, but it carries false symmetry. Other uses: sapate (neutral form), sapata (fem), sapato (masc). Note it derives çapa(to). Here’s the Wiktionary with almost all etymologies. I could translate it as zapa(trans) [as well as zapate/zapatone, zapata/zapatona, zapat, zapatão…]. Here’s an explanation (ptbr).
Commentary: probably it popped up as maria sapatão, since there’s a carnival song. Maria-rapaz, similarly, meant marica/marika fem version, in the interwikis tomboy is mentioned. So I’m presuming sapa could mean tomgirl too, in this perspective.
You could tell me “just say butch” or “just gnc"… But butch is a foreignism/loanword. Gender nonconformity isn’t as known as in English in Brazil. Plus sapatão, just as travesti being older than transexual and transgender, is probably older than undocumented centuries, where outed Brazilian sapphics were deported to Portugal, etc.
Out of curiosity: Nazaré Tedesco memer literally used ”sapatonas“ in a soap opera, becoming another popular meme here.
Sapatrans refers to sapatona transgênera ou sapatão transgênero. It’s used by trans sapphics and transbutch/transmasculine femarics (attracted to women). As you can see in LBT+ facebook communities (there was a bigger group of sapa transfems but I can’t find anymore, but you can search through fb if you want). It can be its own identity transfeminity. Some claim it has peripheral conotations (periférica or more specifically favelada), since some use it as a marginalized group dissidence.
Sapa (shortened), in anglophone «and/or “North-spheric”/“Westerner”» terms, is compared to the “d slur” denotations, but it carries false symmetry. Other uses: sapate (neutral form), sapata (fem), sapato (masc). Note it derives çapa(to). Here’s the Wiktionary with almost all etymologies. I could translate it as zapa(trans) [as well as zapate/zapatone, zapata/zapatona, zapat, zapatão…]. Here’s an explanation (ptbr).
Commentary: probably it popped up as maria sapatão, since there’s a carnival song. Maria-rapaz, similarly, meant marica/marika fem version, in the interwikis tomboy is mentioned. So I’m presuming sapa could mean tomgirl too, in this perspective.
You could tell me “just say butch” or “just gnc"… But butch is a foreignism/loanword. Gender nonconformity isn’t as known as in English in Brazil. Plus sapatão, just as travesti being older than transexual and transgender, is probably older than undocumented centuries, where outed Brazilian sapphics were deported to Portugal, etc.
Out of curiosity: Nazaré Tedesco memer literally used ”sapatonas“ in a soap opera, becoming another popular meme here.
Ambiversion: defining a person whose personality has a balance of both extrovert and introvert typical features; falling more or less directly in the middle, moderately comfortable with interpersonal groups and social interaction, but also relishes time alone, away from a crowd; an ambivert changes behaviour according to the situation they are in.
Transvestility or Transvesticity: related to transvesting; to wear clothes traditionally associated with the other/opposite/different/dissimilar gender; dressing typically as your non-gender or atypically your AGAB transversely.
It’s more formal and rare than cross-dress, transvested is often accompanied by fetishism but transvestic could be a useful adjective. It’s also the back-formation of transvestite.
[Image: a two-striped flag colored with trans pink and blue, with an inverted T in the first stripe and a V in the last one, both letters white mixed alluding the travesti n-b symbol]
Autoeroticity: feeling arising excitement generated by physically stimulating or fantasizing about one’s own body; concerning or arousing sensual desire centered on yourself; self-amatory; erotic activity involving oneself or pertaining to sexual satisfaction obtained without a partner.
So I had two different ideas for this flag and I just made both of them. I did one with the original colors of the solarian and lunarian flags and one with more saturated versions of them.
Original:
Saturated:
Hope one of them works! ~Mod Che
I like the first two desaturated stripes and the last two saturated ones.
Something like this, maybe? ~Mod Che
Thank you. More clarifying about the term: citer is etymologically the antonym of ulter. Ulter-, as well as ultra- (ultri-/ultr(o)-/ulti-) is semantically synonym of trans. Citer- is sometimes used as citi-/citr(o)-/citre-/citri- and specifically citra- which is almost close to citrans incidently cistrans and cis-ters.
As @lgbtqiarchivestated to @sapphic-satan it’s related to obligender (once I defined myself as oblimasc, since my documented assigned sex says masculino, not male(aka macho/mache/macha/mach‹y›)) and demicis. Alibinaries (ideobinaries/viabinaries) as well as aligenders (ideogender/viagender) might explain how some people feel connected to genders, but in my case I am that genders (partly).
Crimeic: Similar to Starboy, Bulletsgender, etc. this gender is related to crime. It’s fueled when crimes are being committed and constantly craves more violence, theft, etc. Can be a gender on its own or a qualifier.
Reintroducing these terms: sapatrans is a combination of sapatão (sapatona, sapatãe/sapatõe, sapata or sapatone) and trans(gender). Transviade (transviada/gem) trans/gender and viade [viada(gem), viad-/viadx,viado] meaning viated/versed.
Asynchronously they were spread after the censorship of the Queermuseu through academic articles and usage of these terms to talk about people’s childhood.
Even though sapa- and -viad- might share assimilationism with slurs like d and f words, some claim they are untranslatable and resignified. Transviado has unknown/dubious roots, such as deviate/transviate/transviant/deviant, transverse(d), trans deer/bambi/doe/hart/veal (veado/veade/veada)… Sapa- (she frog) meaning big shoe, tap dancer or sapphic…
Decidi formular um rótulo de atração pensando em pessoas não-binárias. Para todes que considerem sua atração “viada” de alguma forma, que se considerem uma pessoa “viada” independentemente de qual seja sua identidade e como funcione sua atração, podem usar viade, podem se dizer viades, podem ser muito viades. Serve também para todes que priorizem o fato de serem não-bináries e terem uma atração que não seja hétero.
Sobre o significado da bandeira:
– asterisco laranja: o asterisco é associado com a não-binariedade, e a cor laranja representa individualidade. Então o símbolo expressa força própria e a reafirmação da atração. – faixa rosa: atração por gêneros e/ou identidades dentro das qualidades femininas. – faixa roxa: atração por gêneros e/ou identidades dentro das qualidades andróginas. – faixa azul: atração por gêneros e/ou identidades dentro das qualidades masculinas. – faixa verde: atração por gêneros e/ou identidades dentro das qualidades neutras. – faixa amarela: atração por gêneros e/ou identidades dentro de quaisquer outras qualidades (entre as citadas, ou totalmente novas, ou indefinidas, ou xeninas, etc).
A bandeira serve também para atrações fluídas, ou atrações que mudam de intensidade, ou atrações indeterminadas.
Créditos a @nbandproud que me ajudou muito com ideias e produziu a versão final da bandeira.
Hey English-speaking pals, check this out!
Viade: An identity similar to gai, but derived from “viado”, a word used at least in Brazil that is equivalent to the anti-gay f word in the US. Can be compared to queer in some ways. It’s for everyone that considers their attraction and/or identity viade, including (but not limited to) people who want to express their nonbinary identity and non-straight attraction in this way.
This identity is not exclusive to Brazilians/lusophones/whatever; anyone can use it if they feel like this is a good description of themselves.
Orange asterisk: the asterisk is from the nonbinary symbol, and it represents that this identity is for nonbinary people. It’s orange, and the color orange here represents individuality. Therefore, this symbol represents one’s own strength and reaffirmation of viade attraction. Pink stripe: attraction to genders/identities related to femininity. Purple stripe: attraction to genders/identities related to androgyny. Blue stripe: attraction to genders/identities related to masculinity. Green stripe: attraction to genders/identities related to neutrality. Yellow stripe: attraction to genders/identities related to anything else (undefined qualities, xeninity, maveriquinity, in-between others on the list, and so on).
This identity and flag are inclusive of fluid/flux attractions and a-spec identities.
(it’s pronounced sorta like vee-ah-day or vee-ah-gee depending on accent, btw.)
I was recently thinking about tertiary attractions, and I realized that there’s no way to talk about all tertiary attractions all at once, so I decided to coin the suffix -attractional.
What is does “-attractional” mean?
-attractional, refers to all tertiary attractions (platonic, queerplatonic, alterous, aesthetic, etc.) in a single word
Why would someone would use -attractional?
Here are some examples of it being used:
Nonattraction: when you do not experiences any tertiary
Quoiattractional: when you aren’t sure if you experience tertiary attraction/can’t tell what forms of attractions you feel.
All of your
tertiary
attractions are towards that same gender(s), in which case you would use something biattractional, heteroattractional, etc.
When I use “attractional orientations” I refer to those who are not relational (like -relatious, -amor‹ous›/-amory, -amour‹ous›/-amoury, -gamous/-gamic/-gamy, -erosous/-erosy, -erotic‹ity›…).
Oriented (adjective, as in oriented aroace) could ascribe possibly tertiary attractions… But as a suffix it existed (as well as with peri-/vari-).
I haven’t heard of a term for that and I never considered gender apathy to be an umbrella term for multiple similar genders, but I could make a flag when I get the chance!
Here it is! I took so long trying to come up with colors that might go well with this sort of flag, but I think it looks okay.
The gray in the center is apathy at the core of this identity. Blue is masculinity. Pink is femininity. Yellow is neutral. Green is undefined. Purple is epicenity. Red is xenity.
Let me know if I can make any changes!
May I suggest to reword apiin(gender) to iain(gender)/aiin(gender)? Plus subclassing apin(gender) and iin(gender)/inin(gender).
Antimanicomiality (or anti-manicomialism): an organized movement of transformation about psychiatric public services, involving people associated with mental health, such as psychiatrists, psychologists and social workers requesting a humanitarian improvement, raising awareness and fight discrimination (such as neurosexism, sanism, manicomialism and ableism) that were directed at mental health patients.
Not to be confused with mad pride and anti-psychiatry movements. This is commonly translated as anti-asylum fight, that popped up in Brazil, since manicômio means madhouse and mad- in Portuguese has synonyms only (lunatic, insane, mentally ill…).
Edit: Manicomialismo might be the same as psychophobia/psychomisia (psicofobia/psicomisia) and mentalism, however it may also extend to ablism (capacitismo), neurophobia/neuromisia (neurofobia) and phrenism (frenismo) too. Generally this might include anyone involved against the stigma of being associated with psychology, psychiatry and social work.
I made a flag to represent being apathetic to all forms of identity for a Discord request.
The white is for apathy in general. The pale yellow-orange is for gender apathy, the pink is for attractional apathy, the teal is pronoun apathy, and the purple represents a solid identity (rather than something fluid and confusing.)
Consider throwing me a few dollars on Ko-Fi so I can keep making awesome content like this!
Nice flag and concept! 🙂 I would like the suggest the following term:
Omniapa: Being entirely apathetic regarding all forms of identity.
A portmanteau of the Latin plural neuter nominative form “Omnia” meaning “Entirely”, “Completely” and “all” + “Apathetic” modified to “Apa”, indicating apathetic identity.
– Gent
Love it!
I also unofficially named the image file “polycass”, as in “poly” + the “cass” in cassgender. But I guess that doesn’t imply all.
I haven’t heard of a term for that and I never considered gender apathy to be an umbrella term for multiple similar genders, but I could make a flag when I get the chance!
Here it is! I took so long trying to come up with colors that might go well with this sort of flag, but I think it looks okay.
The gray in the center is apathy at the core of this identity. Blue is masculinity. Pink is femininity. Yellow is neutral. Green is undefined. Purple is epicenity. Red is xenity.
I could make you a flag sometime, but I have no idea if there’s a term for that or not. Sorry!
I came up with flags that don’t have terms yet. The top is for AFAB and the bottom is for AMAB. These will remain umbrella flags for any instance where you feel connected to a gender because it is influenced by your AGAB.
I redesigned the aro and ace flags to make them less… ugly. The original colors were just so clashy and bad. They still mean the same things just more appealing this time
I don’t know what else to do so I’m just gonna put the flags I sometimes make (along with a smudged up version, because smudging them is entertaining for me) on here.
Redesgin of the greyrose/grey-aroace flag! I pretty much just mix my redesgin of the grey-aro and grey-ace flag together
Highsexual: the sudden reversal of one’s sexual orientation after smoking marijuana.
Originally defined as:A condition when you are heterosexual but, when you get high or drunk you act homosexual.
See also: brisasexual, sublimisexual.
[this is just me trying to archive/register it on tumblr. defs are from urbandictionary, sources say it was “coined” on r/Drugs 5 years ago. probably a suggestion not serious but i saw unironic users]
Esogender: a gender that you can understand in your own internal consciousness or headspace, but can’t communicate externally without some parts being “lost in translation”, omitted, changed, or otherwise different from the actual gender you feel (kind of like the loss in quality when converting image files). This can make expressing the details of the gender externally feel difficult, frustrating, or pointless to some.
I can’t find the original coinage post (if there even was one) for sublimigender so let’s archive it on this wonderful 4:20 afternoon
Sublimigender: a gender influenced by altered states of consciousness due to substance use; a gender that changes or is only felt when high. This is not an excuse for substance abuse, and is referring to responsible recreational, spiritual, cultural, or medicinal use. I won’t say can’t use this if you have a substance abuse disorder, though.
Femmenby (femmenbie/femby): Holding a nonbinary gender identity and a femme gender expression, or claiming femme as an identity outside of the gender binary (genderfemme).
See also: femgender, feminine/unmasculine, doe, femcat, cerul, laven, swan, flora, girlby, xirl, demigirl or lipstick lesbian.
there are lots of reasons why other lgbtq indigenous folks dont want to use or id as two-spirit, but i’ve encountered people (exclusively on tumblr because lol this literally never happens to me irl) insisting that i’m doing some kind of disservice to all natives by identifying as two-spirit. it’s a label i chose. i’m not placing the label on others, only myself. because the lgbtq/queer native experience is not a universal one. so bear that in mind. like i said in a previous ask, not every tribe has a concept of two spirit, nor do we all universally accept gender and attraction/sexuality variance (i know mine doesn’t necessarily, and my own parents have taken years and years to accept me as queer). but it is still a self-defined label that native people like myself use, and identify with.
mind you, the word “two-spirit” is not universal. so yeah, there are words similar to “two spirit” (in our own languages) that actually do carry insulting and negative connotations. people still self-identify as those terms today, though. and that’s their choice. so to insinuate that we are using the “wrong labels” in any capacity is also insulting, lmao. we decide what we get to call ourselves. not even other natives get to police our choice in labels or identity words. i’m very disappointed when i see native folks on here arguing that two-spirit is somehow inherently queerphobic.
we (people who id as two-spirit) are essentially repurposing or borrowing an idea that is common among many different tribes to describe gender and/or attraction variance and using ‘two-spirit’ as a modern pan-indigenous label & under which we can unify as queer native people who do not wish to identify with or conform to the labels created by colonizers. here’s a short excerpt from wikipedia;
“Two-spirit does not acknowledge either the traditional acceptance or the nonacceptance of individuals in various nations and tribes. The idea of gender and sexuality variance being universally accepted among Native American/First Nations peoples has become romanticized. Accordingly, the change from berdache to two-spirit is most accurately understood as a non-Native idealization of the social acceptance of gender variance, idealizing a romanticized acceptance of gender variance.”
so, tl;dr – ‘two-spirit’ itself is not an oppresive label. other labels which belong to specific tribes & languages (wherein people who meet the criteria of ‘two-spirit’ are othered) may be, but ‘two-spirit’ is a pan-indigenous label, conceived by several LGBTQ+ natives who sought to reclaim gender and sexuality from colonizers and their Eurocentric categorizations
white and non black psychotics and schizos will talk about how harmful it is to make jokes and fuck around with their mental illness but will turn around and laugh at the “crazy loud black woman” on the street or in a video, yall think people terrorizing psychotic black people esp black women and black homeless people is funny but that shit literally gets us killed when we get the cops called on us for being “suspicious and dangerous looking”
yall are so fucking transparent every time it comes to black people!!!
reblogs are welcomed, if youre not black dont leave a comment
there’s a lot of ways to talk about the ‘he/him lesbian’ argument but here’s one different than what I’ve seen a lot of people offer up: What do you mean by ‘people who use he/him’ are men? Is there a certain point at which you are TOO gender nonconforming? Where is that line? Is there a point at which you can be so gender nonconforming that makes you another gender? If wearing pants and short hair and not shaving your legs and loving women doesn’t make you a man, then why do he/him pronouns? Is it because 99% of people who use those pronouns are men? What about the fact that 99% of people who dress and act like that are men?
‘If you do this you’re this gender’ doesn’t work when you’re talking about someone who’s being gender nonconforming. The entire point is that you are doing things that your gender typically does not. Are you really comfortable drawing a line and personally deciding how much other people are allowed to be GNC before it’s unacceptable?
For non-binary people attracted to men (mascusexual) or women (femisexual).
Why I posted it:
Many non-binary people can’t identify as straight, lesbian, or gay because they aren’t mlw, wlm, wlw, or mlm, so it’s important that they have their own labels that will cause less exclusion and controversy.
That would be unisexual, uniromantic, unisensual, etc. depending on the type of attraction. If you want a term that doesn’t specify the type of attraction, you could say “uniattractional”.
I was recently thinking about tertiary attractions, and I realized that there’s no way to talk about all tertiary attractions all at once, so I decided to coin the suffix -attractional.
What is does “-attractional” mean?
-attractional, refers to all tertiary attractions (platonic, queerplatonic, alterous, aesthetic, etc.) in a single word
Why would someone would use -attractional?
Here are some examples of it being used:
Nonattraction: when you do not experiences any tertiary
Quoiattractional: when you aren’t sure if you experience tertiary attraction/can’t tell what forms of attractions you feel.
All of your
tertiary
attractions are towards that same gender(s), in which case you would use something biattractional, heteroattractional, etc.
When I use “attractional orientations” I refer to those who are not relational (like -relatious, -amor‹ous›/-amory, -amour‹ous›/-amoury, -gamous/-gamic/-gamy, -erosous/-erosy, -erotic‹ity›…).
Oriented (adjective, as in oriented aroace) could ascribe possibly tertiary attractions… But as a suffix it existed (as well as with peri-/vari-).
again, for the sake of historical accuracy… “woman-loving woman” and it variants seem to have been popularized in lesbian feminism in the 1970s:
[T]he phrase woman-loving woman circulated
in North American feminist circles in the 1970s – as witnessed by Teresa
Trull’s 1977 song “Woman-Loving Women” … The phrase has since come to be used in a variety of
contexts that have taken it away from its 1970s iteration. (“Thiefing Sugar: Eroticism between Women in
Caribbean Literature,” 2010, p. 234, footnote 16)
This reminds me the use of SGL (same gender lovig). Plus the medical/public health term WSW (along with MSM, WLM and MLW. I know people use GLG to mean girl/gals loving girls/gal pals (before juvelic came/g meaning gender) in tags. Incidently SGA/SSA, SGM/SSM (marriage), SGP/SSP (parents/partners)… Then DSD(s), GSA, GSM/GSSM/GRSM/GSRM and GSD/GSRD/GRSD/GSSD/SGD. Then SAGA/QSA, VSC, SGM and GLS/GLA.
Her child is literally “Hermaphroditis”, as if Aphrodite would be all like “yeah biological sex is unchangeable and binary”.
Not to mention Hermaphroditus became an androgynous form merged with Salmacis as a metamorphosis. Androgyny/gynandry meant the same as hermaphrodite-ness in those centuries (androgyne/androgynus).
The burgundy stripe represents mastery over their autonomous identity.
The white stripe represents the blank slate of gender autonomy.
The yellow stripe represents detachment from the binary and conventional concepts of gender.
The lime green stripe represents freedom from categorization, gender roles and other limitations placed upon an individual based upon gender.
All of the other terms I coined also have flags, but I looked, and they haven’t been posted. I will be posting these pretty soon, most likely in the next couple of days.
– Gent
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For the last day of Nonbinary awareness week here is a couple of gender identities
rosboy: a feminine boy; someone who both considers themselves a boy and has some significant connection to femininity, either in their gender or expression; a feminine-aligned boy; an umbrella term for all identities that involve being both a boy and feminine
azurgirl: a masculine girl; someone who both considers themselves a girl and has some significant connection to masculinity, either in their gender or expression; a masculine-aligned girl; an umbrella term for all identities that involve being both a girl and masculine
these flags are based on the feminenby and masculenby flags and the man and woman flags! prefixes come from the words “rose” and “azure”, which are specific shades of pink and blue respectively. both of these prefixes are similar to how many european languages say ‘blue’ and ‘pink’, and the english words both relate to nature, which i felt unified the terms!
A polyamorous individual who perfers most of their relationships to be monogamous/ 2 person despite being polyamorous. They are still open to multi-person relationships.
Hyper-polyamorous
( with and w/o symbols)
A polyamorous individual who perfers most of their relationships to be polyamorous/2+ person despite being polyamorous. They are still open to 2-person relationships.
Pari-polyamorous
( w/ and w/o symbol)
A polyamorous individual who has no preference or perfers the amount of their monogamous/ 2 person relationships and polyamorous/ 2+ person relationships to be equal despite being polyamorous. They are impartial or perfer them equally.
(Image description: eight images with backgrounds covered in purple, gray, and yellow sprinkles, each image has a purple box with the words “hi, my pronouns are:” in black text above a yellow box with a set of pronouns in black text. The pronouns are: she/they, he/they, she/he/they, it/its, sie/hir, ae/aer, ze/zem, xey/xem.)
Anyone noticed how the gatekeeping begone or at least almost disappeared in the mogai tag?
Zalgoric genders are genders that are just like. Kinda messy. Kinda staticy. On one end of the spectrum you got kinda-zalgo’d genders where you can see what the gender is but there’s something… off about it. And on the other end of the spectrum you have something so distorted and strange that it’s impossible to tell what’s under the static, if there’s anything there to begin with.
Can be used as just “I’m Zalgoric”, or “zalgoric man”, “zalgoric enby”, etc
no flag for it yet feel free to come up with your own
Gendershell describes the shell itself, not the (lack of) gender within, since there’s nothing to describe in the first place.
It’s the idea and look of a gender on the outside, but
absolutely nothing on the inside. It’s so beyond genderless that there
aren’t any words to describe just how much gender there isn’t, only to describe one’s presentation.
The shell can be made of anything, thicker or thinner depending on the person or moment, it can be fluid and shifting or it can be broken down and replaced entirely.
The shell can be anything; man, woman, any
nonbinary gender, any mix of genders, etc. All that matters is that
it’s not your “true” gender, because there’s no gender to begin with.
The shell’s just there because it works to describe your outward
feelings and/or presentation.
Gender’s always felt weird and wrong to me. Even agender, a word which literally means “absence of gender”, felt too gender-y for my liking.
Words like voidgender/gendervoid and other sort of nothingness-type gender words always felt incorrect.
It’s a hole that’s so completely detached from the idea of gender to begin with that even “genderless” doesn’t describe it. So I made gendershell.
Is it just a really roundabout way of saying “genderless, but with a (semi-)gendered presentation”? Probably. you cant stop me tho lol
I guess one could say they’re “guyshell”, “enbyshell” or whatever else they want, if that’s your thing. Tho you could also just describe the shell itself and call yourself “guy”, “enby”, etc.
also yes i know the term shellgender exists but it doesnt seem to be at all popular PLUS i just didnt like it. tho let it be known i came up with gendershell before knowing shellgender was a thing
being two-spirit is self-defined, and i personally use the term as a native person to describe both my romantic attraction/sexuality and gender identity, in the same way some ppl label themselves as queer. if i were going to list out all the western labels that fit me, the list would include trans, nonbinary, genderfluid, polysexual, and aromantic. but i dont like western labels, and i prefer to use queer or two-spirit because i feel like those suit me best, two-spirit especially because being native is often the thing i feel like most represents who i am in my identity.
not every tribe or indigenous group has a concept of two-spirit, and some tribes have even regarded gender ambiguity or queerness of any kind as ‘evil’, while some others were evangelized/radicalized by colonizers and currently follow christian teachings and perpetuate colonialism within their own societies, so it’s important to remember that we are not a homogenous group or race, every tribe is different. two-spirit is more or less part of the pan-indigenous movement, though, and was coined by lgbtq+ native folks ~1990. any first nations indigenous person can claim two-spirit as an identity label, even if their tribe didn’t historically recognize something like it.
there is a really good video about it here that i think does a good job of explaining the label and why it is used.
just remember that two-spirit, like any queer identity label, is self-defined so if you’re looking for a clear-cut definition of two-spirit, just know that the “answers” that exist in books and on the internet are usually one-sided and sometimes written by colonizers who have a narrow grasp of what it means to be queer and indigenous.
also: two-spirit does not mean “bisexual” or “bigender” which is what i’ve seen a lot of non natives say, essentially, when explaining it to other non natives. which is frustrating.
anyway please watch the video!
Two-spirit is also a Native ONLY identity. If you are not Native you cannot use this identity so @the op. Even if you identify as all these things if you aren’t Native then you cannot use this term!!
Native American/Amerindian you mean? Because simply saying “native” apply to any region. If so, natives of North America only? Or ‘murica (aka USA)?
Originally posted here in 2017 and revamped by me to be less blurry and more crisp. The second flag is a version I made with a pink, flipped Mars symbol to represent still identifying as a man but choosing to present in a fully feminine (or fem-androgynous) manner.
Femboy: a boy with a “feminine” physical attitude.
This light blue comes from the transgender flag. It stands for the masculine assigned gender, but has only one stripe cause it’s not the most important.
The white, such as on the transgender flag, evoques passing people and non binary people.
The light pink stands for the feminine behaviour, such as on the lipstick lesbians’ flag, and the pink represents the intention to have an exterior feminine appearance. These are on the outside of the flag cause the feminine side is what people see first when they meet a femboy. They are important compared to the assigned gender.
Creator can be found here at the Lesbians Unite Amino.
While I’m not here to police people’s identities or reclaimed slurs, I’m just awaring you that the Mars symbol could misrepresent some self-identifying femboys.
Sidenote: reusing it as feminboy/femiboy/femmeboy/femmiboy (as in one word) as well as femguy/femdude (femmedude/femmeguy, femindude/feminiboy/feminguy, feminidude/feminiguy, femiguy/femidude, femmidude/femmiguy) will not work at all, it’s not as frequently and popular/common but people already use these spellings/typos in p0rn titles too.
Btw femgirl and ladygirl could be more gender affirming/affirmative to som women.
Shadic: A gender with a strong connection to Slim Shady and intrusive thoughts caused by OCD- specifically more violent and/or sexual ones. Only for Slim Shady introjects, especially with OCD. Not a kin gender
Colors:
Red ~ Sexual intrusive thoughts
Black ~ Violent intrusive thoughts
Yellow ~ Being blonde (it’s hard to put into words, sorry)
Purple ~ A near God complex, seemingly misplaced sense of royalty, and grandiose sense of self worth
Slimic: A gender that’s similar to Shadic in its connection to Slim Shady. However, the connection to intrusive thoughts are less strong. Only for Slim Shady introjects. Not a kin gender
Colors:
Red ~ A connection to that one picture with dynamite (hard to put into words, sorry)
White ~ A connection to the old Jason-like mask era (again, hard to put into words)
Yellow ~ Being blonde (it’s hard to put into words, sorry)
Purple ~ A near God complex, seemingly misplaced sense of royalty, and grandiose sense of self worth
I’m sorry I had a hard time putting the explanation for some of the colors into words. They made sense in my head when I made the flags, it just didn’t translate from my head very well.
I made a flag to represent being apathetic to all forms of identity for a Discord request.
The white is for apathy in general. The pale yellow-orange is for gender apathy, the pink is for attractional apathy, the teal is pronoun apathy, and the purple represents a solid identity (rather than something fluid and confusing.)
Consider throwing me a few dollars on Ko-Fi so I can keep making awesome content like this!
Nice flag and concept! 🙂 I would like the suggest the following term:
Omniapa: Being entirely apathetic regarding all forms of identity.
A portmanteau of the Latin plural neuter nominative form “Omnia” meaning “Entirely”, “Completely” and “all” + “Apathetic” modified to “Apa”, indicating apathetic identity.
Aporogender: A gender experience that is nonspecific and/or imprecise.
Etymology
From Ancient Greek, “A” meaning “without” + “Poros” modified to “Poro”
meaning “Passage” + “-gender”, an English neologistic suffix indicating
genderedness. Coined by
Callista Se Vens on Facebook, 2020. Callista did not originally state the meaning of Aporogender. However, user Arco-Pluris was kind enough to inquire about it’s meaning and pass the information onto me.
Flag
Prior to this post, there was no flag for this term. So, I went ahead
and created one. This flag consists of five, solid-colored, horizontal
stripes of the same size. From top to bottom, they are pastel green, light grey, orange, medium grey and eggplant purple. The secondary colors green, orange and purple represent imprecision and inexactness. The two grey stripes represent nonspecificity/generality. Flag by Gent (Gender-Resource), 2020.
I was mostly just messing around with colors and mixing pride flags for fun but uhhh non-binary transmasculine / non-binary transfeminine flags? Idk I liked how they turned out enough to post them.
:
new flag i made for fun
this is the mlm + wlw flag! it is for multigender (bigender, genderfluid, etc.) people like me who identify as both mlm and wlw. it is also trans and n.b inclusive so if you identify as nlm and nlw then you can use it too!
In some languages un-/um- is translated as in-/im- and dis-/anti- (due to not having other word specifically with u-), so gender indifference/indifferent might also be encompassed (undifferent) and disidentified.
It came to my attention that a Canadianbaby has a “gender-neutral "U" sex marker”, standing for unassigned or undetermined. Btw u- bases n-gender definition.
Fascinafluid: A fluid gender that floats between and collects genders that one finds fascinating. Can sometimes completely drop genders once one is no longer fascinated by them.
Fascinaflux: When one’s gender fluctuates in intensity based on how fascinating one finds a specific gender. Genders can go from feeling completely dead to extremely strong based on one’s own fascination with that gender.
Coolfluid: A fluid gender that floats between and collects genders that one finds generally cool. Can sometimes completely drop genders once one no longer finds them cool.
Coolflux: When one’s gender fluctuates in intensity based on how cool one finds a specific gender. Genders can go from feeling completely dead to extremely strong based on how cool one finds that gender.
Sapiofluid: A fluid gender that floats between and collects genders that one thinks have an intelligent description. Can sometimes completely drop genders once one no longer finds them intelligent or even finds them stupid.
Sapioflux: When one’s gender fluctuates in intensity based on how intelligent one finds the description of a specific gender. Genders can go from feeling completely dead to extremely strong based on how intelligent one finds that gender.
Meaningfluid: A fluid gender that floats between and collects genders that one finds personally meaningful. Can sometimes completely drop genders once one no longer finds them personally meaningful.
Meaningflux: When one’s gender fluctuates in intensity based on how personally meaningful one finds it to be. Genders can go from feeling completely dead to extremely strong based on how personally one finds that gender.
(Image description: 10 images with a lavender background and a Polaroid photo style image in the center, the photo is labeled “pride” in black text, each photo is of a different pride flag.)
So, I initially wasn’t going to weigh in on this, but it seems there’s been some community conflict surrounding it. The current conversation seems a bit unproductive, and I wanted to weigh in with a more middle-of-the-road opinion to hopefully help us work towards a solution.
To be clear, I’m only interested in good-faith efforts to listen to what others have to say, share thoughts and feelings, and look to how we can improve things moving into the future. If you’re interested in anything else, this is not the post for you.
Synopsis
Synopsis of the conflict below. Note that I’ve paraphrased a bit of it, but please read people’s own words and don’t assume that my paraphrasing is exactly how they would characterize the situation themselves.
While I believe that people have the right to use whatever words they’d like to describe their relationships, the wording of the original post coining queeragamic did have echoes of exclusionary rhetoric, and it is important to address that. However, the response trying to address this issue definitely crossed a line.
I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about the term “queerplatonic.” I have a lot of respect for the original creators of the term, Kaz and s. e. smith, and for the communities that have popularized it and found it to be a helpful term.
One of the great wisdoms around terms is that you can use them when they feel right, and you can stop when they don’t.
And lately, “queerplatonic” just hasn’t been feeling right. I think this is almost entirely because of the resurgence I’ve seen of people saying queerplatonic relationships can be sexual. And, I mean, that’s valid. That’s something a big chunk of people in our communities have decided is a thing, and a thing that they want. But it also means I’m just… not comfortable with the term anymore. I know that I could choose to conceptualize my (future) queerplatonic relationship differently, or that I can still use the term, but it’s just not resonating with me.
I’ve mentioned before that the mod who runs @genderqueerpositivity is a dear friend of mine, and has been for… well, almost a decade now. And we talked together about what I was feeling and some possible options, and we came up with queeragamic.
I worked with @genderqueerpositivity to create this term, because I feel like it will be useful for me. It’d just be a bonus if it also happens to be useful for someone else.
So, here it is:
Queeragamic
[ ID: The queeragamic flag, described below. ]
Definition
A deep, emotional connection that transcends common conceptions of friendships and their importance but does not involve sexual acts.
Style Guide
This flag has 4 even stripes which are colored (top to bottom): yellow (#f9f494), light teal (#65ccce), lavender (#b57edc), and dark grey (#3f3f3f).
Meaning
Yellow symbolizes platonic relationships. Light teal is a mixture that blends the calm of blue with the renewal of green. Lavender symbolizes queerness. Dark grey symbolizes a mixture of black for asexual and lighter grey for gray-asexual and demisexual.
I’m not going to stop posting on this blog, and I still firmly believe in the importance of the term “queerplatonic” and in queerplatonic positivity. But I’ll be supplementing that with some queeragamic positivity, too. If this new term doesn’t resonate with you, that’s totally okay. I made it for me, so that’s fine. But if it does, please know that I’m totally okay with you using the term and the flag. =D
The pink represents sex, as does the original pink stripe in the gay pride flag.
The grey represents that gay people have complicated relationships with sex and sexuality without needing ace or magai labels.
The white is a symbol of rejecting purity culture and embracing that gay sex is healthy, natural, and good even when it’s demonized by society.
The purple is for lavenders and violets, and the green is for carnations.
Feel free to use 🙂
op would u mind if I made a pastel edit of these
i love them
i did this in approx 2min in google drawings so absolutely go off!!! any edits made based off of this would be like… an honor yeehaw
I made several
(yeet)
pardner these are the most valid things ive seen in my gosh darned life
Some other gamegenders for The Legend of Zelda and Portal
Gamegender:
A gender only felt when playing video games, or in some way connected to video games. The label can be altered to be a specific game (ex: “simgender”, “portalgender”, etc.).
I am in shock. I am the first time doing flags. I’ve done Solstellaric flags!
The shades of yellow-green I took from novarian flag,black,grey and light yellow means nonbinary,hearts means attraction and novarian symbol means both masculine alignment and non-alignment(because Solstellaric means attraction solely to masculine and non-aligned nonbinary people).
I’m Solstellaric myself,so I tried to do these flags. I hope you enjoy!
Reintroducing these terms: sapatrans is a combination of sapatão (sapatona, sapatãe/sapatõe, sapata or sapatone) and trans(gender). Transviade (transviada/gem) trans/gender and viade [viada(gem), viad-/viadx,viado] meaning viated/versed.
Asynchronously they were spread after the censorship of the Queermuseu through academic articles and usage of these terms to talk about people’s childhood.
Even though sapa- and -viad- might share assimilationism with slurs like d and f words, some claim they are untranslatable and resignified. Transviado has unknown/dubious roots, such as deviate/transviate/transviant/deviant, transverse(d), trans deer/bambi/doe/hart/veal (veado/veade/veada)… Sapa- (she frog) meaning big shoe, tap dancer or sapphic…
I’ve been looking for a term for quite some time that described my orientation in relation to my gender. Unable to find one, I made my own.
Zetasexual/Zetaromantic
This is an orientation that can only be claimed by someone with a fluid, fluctuating, changing, or otherwise unfixed gender. Attraction flows, fluctuates, and changes in tandem with gender and focuses primarily on people with genders less similar to ones own. For example, a genderfluid zetasexual person would feel more attracted to masculinity and masculine genders while in a feminine phase and more attracted to femininity/feminine genders while in a masculine phase.
This orientation falls under the mspec umbrella and can be used in combination with other mspec identities or by itself. For example, someone can be bisexual as well as zetasexual, feeling 80/20 split attraction which changes depending on where the persons gender lies at the time.
And then I thought…what about people who are the other way around, as in their GENDER depends on the ATTRACTION?
Zetagender
This is a gender that can only be claimed by someone with a fluid, fluctuating, changing, or otherwise unfixed attraction. Gender flows, fluctuates, and changes in tandem with attraction and aligns with a gender less similar to the attraction. For example, a zetagender abrosexual person would experience a more masculine gender while feeling attraction to femininity/feminine genders, and a more feminine gender while feeling attraction to masculinity/masculine genders.
Thesetwo terms are different in the fact that with zetasexual/zetaromantic, the GENDER comes first and the attraction follows. In Zetagender, the ATTRACTION comes first and the gender follows.
The split attraction model, or SAM, has been viciously attacked over the course of the past couple years, based on claims that it is homophobic, sexualizing, etc. In order to understand where these claims break down, it’s important to consider the history of split attraction as a model for orientation.
Disjunctive Identities: The Original SAM
Long before the split attraction model was conceived, before even the popularization of gay and lesbian as identity words, there was Karl Heinrich Ulrichs. By 1879, Ulrichs had published twelve books on the subject of non-heterosexual attraction. Though the language he used is not modern sexuality language, the various classifications of orientations that he eventually came up with are fairly similar to modern LGB+ identities, with some exceptions.
Most notable among those exceptions (at least for the purposes of this post) is the fact that he identified two distinct categories of people who would today be considered bisexual (which he then called uranodioning in men and uranodioningin in women): konjunktiver and disjunktiver. (In English, conjunctive and disjunctive bisexuality.) The first described a person with both “tender” and “passionate” feelings for both men and women. The second, however, described a person who had “tender” feelings for men, but “passionate” feelings for women (if the person was a man – the inverse if the person was a woman).
Though Ulrichs’s model was never widely popularized, due to its complexity (he also recognized “man who has sex with men in prison but is otherwise straight” and “man who has been through conversion therapy” as distinct sexualities, among others), it remains the first historical model of orientation to account for split attraction.
Limerance: Separating Love From Sex
The next instance of a model accounting for split attraction was published almost exactly a century after Ulrichs’s works. Psychologist Dorothy Tennov’s studies of attraction and love in the 1960′s led to the publication of her book “Love and Limerence: The Experience of Being in Love” in 1979.
Limerance encompassed what would now be termed a crush, or infatuation with someone – the kind of attraction that would lead to the formation of a relationship, and which could lead to a longer-term, stable experience of love. Although Tennov viewed limerance as essentially including sexual attraction, she acknowledged that sex was not the focus of limerant attraction.
In and of itself, therefore, limerance would not be considered a split attraction model. However, it is worth mentioning because of later use of “non-limerant” as a precursor to today’s “aromantic.”
Affectional Attraction: The First Modern SAM
It is unclear when, precisely, the term “affectional orientation/attraction” first came into popular use. I have seen its coining attributed to Curt Pavola, a gay rights activist from Washington, and to Lisa Diamond, a psychologist. However, the term seems to predate both of these individuals, with the earliest use I can find being from a 1989 paper on education about gay and lesbian identities, wherein the authors use affectional attraction as a term which they do not feel the need to define, indicating to me that its origin must be earlier than that.
Affectional attraction/orientation was used, as a term, to indicate that simply using sexual attraction/orientation was reductive – that it implied that a relationship or feeling of attraction was entirely or mostly about sex. A large body of writing about orientation from the 90′s and early 2000′s uses “affectional/sexual orientation” or similar phrasing for exactly this reason.
Haven For The Human Amoeba: Today’s Split Attraction
Finally, we trace split attraction to a form that is familiar to all of us today.
An attempt on AVEN to trace the origins of romantic orientations as we know them leads to the Yahoo email group Haven For The Human Amoeba (the name of which was derived from the article “My Life As A Human Amoeba”). In that group, in 2001, there were a series of posts about the term "hetero-asexual”.
The idea of split attraction as used today, however, was developed about four years later, in 2005, on AVEN. Terms were hashed out, and the structure of the language that we use today was born. By 2007, the modern language of split attraction was in common use in asexual circles, and was also tentatively suggested to non-asexual people who were questioning their identities.
Conclusions
What can we conclude from this information? I would summarize what I’ve found with the following points:
1) That split attraction, or the potential for split attraction, is not a modern concept, but has been something we have been aware of for centuries.
2) That split attraction is not an exclusively asexual concept, but up until very recently was an integral part of orientation studies in general.
3) That the modern language of split attraction originated within the asexual community.
4) That anyone who blames asexual people for any perceived horribleness of the split-attraction model is flat wrong.
I don’t know if this is the first – they propose their specific model as if it is the formal model to include this split aspect, but they discuss the concept having separate “physical” and “affectional” in a way that suggests that the concepts have been around previously, if not in a formalized way. Combing through the bibliography here may be an interesting endeavor for someone with more time than me.
Ahh, bless you. Papers that actually include bibliographies are my lifeblood.
So based on this info, I did some more digging. What I’m finding is that prior to about 1977, affectional was used exclusively to describe a platonic or familial emotional connection. (Examples: one, two, three) I would theorize based on this that the paper you found is the first to put the pre-existing term into a model of human sexuality.
Epinverique (epin maverique): a multi-gender identity that consists of two or more parts (depending on the person), epingender/epiagender and maverique. Alt. words: epiaverique, epeverique, einverique, eiaverique.
There’s no specific epia/epin(gender) flag, except the general epicene ones, I based on the demiepicene flag, that chose these middle colors. Epe/eia/ein (eingender/eiagender/epegender) prefixes based on ne/fe/me and nia/fia/mia.
The description derives minverique/finverique definitions, however personally I see this can be a gendervast too, or simply for use by epicene-aligned maveriques, maverique-aligned epicenes, maveriquine epiceniques, etc.
I managed to find a few things I think might help!
Stratogender: when your gender has different layers. it could also possibly be used for cloud/skykin, since “strato” is like “stratosphere"… [it] comes from the prefix "strato”, which means “layer.
Magiskyvine: a gender related to clouds, magic, shades of purple, beautiful skies at night, clear skies, and potions. feels sparkly and warm
Pancaeleste: identifying as every space-related gender (within one’s experiences)
Mnioct: encompasses the void but is filled with all. Mniofirin is the masculine form, Mniobainin is feminine, and Mniodrach is neutral. The stem comes from the Irish words for science and void, and the endings come from the irish words for masc/fem/neutral.
Genderspace: an umbrella term for genders that are influenced or related to different parts of space, such as genderstar, gendergalaxy, genderconstallation, gendermoon, genderplanet, etc. the ending could be replaced with specific bodies for even more specific terms, like gendermars or gendercallisto.
Galaxenic: a xenogender related to a galaxy
Astralgender: a gender that feels connected to space.
B✰Y: like boy but more like non-binary boy…pronounced the same way as boy…feels like a masculine xenogender related to concepts like space and aliens. Like, being male, but it being a version of masculinity that is based more on alien concepts of masculinity than on current human concepts.
Aethergender: a gender that feels very wide, commanding, breathtaking and powerful, linked to the vast expanse of space. can be used as aethergirl/boy/nonbinary etc
Cosmicgender: a gender so vast and complex that you are only able to process a small bit of it at a time. like viewing the night sky through a telescope you cannot hope to see all of it at once however you may gain more knowledge about parts of it the longer you focus on one part. may contain any number of sub genders within it that may present themselves to you. it is infinite in its possibility. name from the vast reaches of space filled with things we cannot begin to imagine.
Oceaspatium: a gender that encompasses the vastness of space and the depths and qualities of the ocean.
NEB, more specifically NEBNOB (non-binary exclusive bi nonbinary): a bisexual nonbinary person who chooses to only pursue their attraction to non-binary folks. Alt. words: nebnonb, nebnb/nebn-b, nebenby/nebenbie(s), nebnonbin/nebnobin, nebnbi, nebnonbi, nebenb/neben, nebonb, nebneu.
Shayminic: A gender related to the Pokemon Shaymin. It can be used by Shayminkin, Shaymin sympaths, or those who feel their gender is heavily related to Shaymin.
Shayminlandic: A gender related to the Pokemon Shaymin in Land Forme.
Shayminskyic:
A gender related to the Pokemon Shaymin in Sky Forme.
(1st flag is Shayminlandic, 2nd flag is Shayminskyic)
Gender-freedom or genderfreeness: undefined gender basis in which gender is not present; when gender is insignificant or irrelevant to the individual; a gender identity which is generally ambiguous, but definitely queer in nature. Gender-freeness will tend to pursue expressions, presentations and such without concern for gender associations associated with them. A blurry, cloudy, whimsical, free sense of gender.
See also: gender-neutral, gender-blind, genderless, apagender. ~ ap
AnEsexuals are people who are sexually attracted to anime characters. I’m an AnEsexual and I’ve never seen a flag for us! So I made one for us! I hope you’ll submit it.
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