wavership:

this is a question i want to address.

first off, absolutely no shade to anyone here. this isn’t a vague or an @ or anything like that. this is just something that has seemed to pop up a lot in the community (whatever you see ‘the community’ as) these days, so i want to give my two cents.

“Sometimes I’m okay with xyz. Sometimes I’m not.”

“I’m okay with she/her, but I don’t like being called a girl.”

“I’m a man, but sometimes it feels wrong to say that.”

A lot of people recommend looking at fluid or flux genders, which I totally agree with. I think looking at any kind of trans identity is a great place to start!

However, I want to also suggest that sometimes fluidity is very much uncertainty.

Maybe it’s the first time you’re trying different pronouns. Maybe you’ve only recently thought of ‘being another gender’. Maybe you’re scared to branch out and don’t even know it yet.

It’s okay! Tbh it’s near impossible for a stranger to be able to tell you!

I just want to say: just because something only happens ‘sometimes’ doesn’t mean it really is a fluid or flux gender. Sometimes you just need time to explore, grow, and learn what it is you need.

no one is pressuring you to identify with a fluid/flux term. Look around! maybe sometimes you’re okay with being called a girl… but maybe sometimes you put up with being called a girl. it’s harmless to experiment and find out!

also, all of this is coming from someone who is pro-nb and genderfluid, so im in no way saying ‘wah the genderfluids are taking over!’ that would be silly. im just suggesting look around, take everything in, and think about yourself. sometimes a label doesnt fit right. sometimes you have to grow to find what you’re looking for. (and that goes for everything, not just gender.)

perhaps fluidness or unstaticity, fluxity/flexity/fluxness or unstability