since people are talking about Imane Khelif, some reminders for discussing intersex issues:
“Disorders of sex development” or “DSD” is an intersexist term that contributes to medical violence and social alienation. The correct word is “intersex,” a neutral term for the characteristics that the term “DSD” others and pathologizes.
You can be intersex and cis. You can be intersex and trans. A lot of intersex people have more complicated relationships to those concepts/terms. Being cis or trans doesn’t make someone more or less intersex.
Gender testing in women’s sports is both transmisogynistic and intersexist. In practice it usually impacts intersex cis women because trans women are already disqualified by their social histories. Intersex cis athletes subjected to abuse and discrimination due to gender testing results are victims of intersexism, not “misdirected” or “mistaken” transmisogyny. Intersexism, transmisogyny, and misogynoir all overlap in many ways due to the intertwined histories of sex, gender, and race categories.
“Proof” that an intersex cis woman is not a trans woman (i.e. that she was AFAB’d) will not stop TERFs from attacking her, because TERFs also do not view intersex cis women as real women (case in point).
No one’s private medical info should be reported on the news, but when an athlete is outed as intersex in this way, trying to defend their honor by claiming they’re not really intersex only reinforces intersexism.
Arguing over what kind of intersex variation someone has (e.g. hormonal vs. chromosomal) and whether it “counts” is intersexist and also weird. Leave us alone!
anyway, congrats to Imane on her win, it’s not her fault Angela Carini is a bigoted crybaby coward
I have to rant a little about what’s happening at the Olympics because I’m feeling ashamed as an Italian and angry as a queer person. For those who don’t know, there is an Algerian athlete competing in women’s boxing named Imane Khelif, who just today had a match against her Italian competitor Angela Carini. Khelif is a cisgender woman who naturally produces more testosterone than the average. She was previously disqualified from the IBA World Boxing Championships for failing an unspecified medical test but was cleared by the IOC to compete in the Olympics (side note, the IBA is currently unrecognised by the IOC for internal governance issues and ties to the Russian government). Fast forward to today, Carini decides to withdraw from the match after only 40-odd seconds because Khelif hit her on the nose and apparently it hurt too much. Unsurprisingly Khelif has become the target of a massive shitstorm, including the press mistakenly calling her transgender (which she isn’t) and many people, including members of the Italian government and the elongated muskrat himself, spreading misinformation and disgusting transphobic and racist rhetoric. It was so bad that even the Algerian government intervened, and pictures of Khelif as a young girl have been publicly released. I know that the participation of trans people in sport is a thorny conversation, but this whole shitshow isn’t helping anyone and the facts are just being weaponised to attack intersex and trans people by the same far-righters who don’t give a rat’s dick about actual women’s rights. So I’m sad about Carini’s loss because she’s my compatriot, sure, but I’m even angrier at both those people who use Khelif, an innocent athlete who has all the right to compete against other women, as the target for their campaigns of hatred, and those who don’t bother finding proper information and remain content in their prejudices.
(edited the post slightly because as far as I know Khelif never publicly called herself intersex)
“Carini decides to withdraw from the match after only 40-odd seconds because Khelif hit her on the nose and apparently it hurt too much.”
Carini is a professional, Olympic-level boxer. She described the injuries as the most intense and painful ones of her career. Acting like she was just being a wuss is disingenuous; I think the woman whose nose was bashed in knows more about her injuries than you do, and I think your flippancy says a lot about your real priorities.
Carini is a professional, Olympic level boxer and as such should be able to take a hit to the face. She quit less than a minute into the match and then went on a tear filled transphobic tirade to cameras and suggesting that the IOC should disqualify Khelif for the crime of being boxer, and an arguably better one than Carini herself. Notably, Carini is a white woman who is literally weaponizing herself against her Black opponent.
the misdirected transmisogyny and very intentionally directed intersexism towardsimane khelif is beyond bad enough but what really makes my blood boil is the stomachchurning racism of it all. carini’s statement is just fucking saturated with white victimhood, probably enough to power the frateli d’italia for a whole year
See at first I was just going to be like, delete, but when I saw the “cissies like you” part, this actually just turned into being funny.
I have nonbinary in my bio, people usually assume all nonbinary people = trans people. The cis flag in question was made with cis-queer people in mind. Clearly, you’re not actually trying to argue with me. Or, by the fact that you ignored it, can it be assumed that you’re bigoted against nonbinary, intersex, and even trans people who don’t fit in a binary? Also, for whatever is genuine in this ask, if you’re trying to argue for minorities (only people who are oppressed deserve pride flags, opposite of “cis people don’t deserve pride flags (because they don’t suffer/aren’t oppressed)”), you should really lay off the slurs, you know, words used against minorities.
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I’ve actually been questioning my gender modality, it’s what inspired me to respond to this instead of deleting it. I’ve been interested in tris for a while, but I’ve never thought to apply it to myself. Though this, being called cis, it’s interesting. Are there people out there who think I’m cis, even with my nonbinary identity / pride flags? Like trans and cis? And surprisingly, I don’t mind being called a cissy. Sure does make me think, maybe I am tris. If I am, well I’ve already unintentionally built up a bunch of flags and terms I can use, convenient lol.
Are there such things as label tryouts, like pronoun tryouts?
It would be a pretty funny story, “I started identifying as cistrans because someone online called me a cissy”.
This was a pretty helpful ask, mission failed and all that. I’ve never heard of cissy before, but based on the spelling+context, I assume it’s referring to cis people, you wouldn’t happen to know any other words for cis people, would you?
People just see cis in a pride or label and immediately think “oh the cissies wannabe oppressed so bad”. Bc these shitlibby activists constructed a rigid box for cis ppl in their mind. But if you go to the dictionary definition, you never see things like “exclusively”, “strictly”, “only”, “all the time”, “fully” in addition to self-identify their AGAB as their gender. You only see these things put in definition in nonbinary-inclusive “mindful” activists. Yeah maybe I don’t fit your label rigidity of cisness, but I indeed fit the definition given by dictionaries and cisnormative minds of what it looks like being cis-passing/cis-presenting, and thus reclaim cisness for myself. But gender cisness never excluded transness as well. You could always be cis and trans. Many old explanations of genderfluid included fluctuating into a cis gender.
And ppl also think “it’s ok to be hateful towards oppressor”. so what? You can be hateful with het transfems just bc they are het? This doesn’t make sense. Anon, you’re literally destroying your own community with that mindset. You may say “don’t confuse the minority reaction to the oppressor’s violence” but this is not the case when the person has a marginalized gender
Ok I’m having a slight mental breakdown about the sun the last couple days (idk what’s happening but every time the sun touches me I get these horrible intrusive thoughts like “I’m not wearing sunscreen, my skin is going to peel off my body, I’m going to get melanoma and die of sun cancer”) so to reassure myself and spread awareness here are the signs of melanoma and when to get it checked by a doctor:
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An informational graphic poster depicting moles and melanoma from Allina Health which divides the images into a chart by the melanoma warning signs ABCDE criteria (or ABCDEs of Melanoma). The chart reads:
A: “Asymmetry. One half of the mole does not match the other half.” The accompanying picture of a mole shows a circular mole that extends from the skin compared to a melanoma or malignant mole which is shaped abnormally, the line dividing it in the middle showing that it is asymmetrical due to the shape not being the same on both sides.
B: “Border. The mole’s edges look ragged or blurred.” The accompanying image of a normal mole shows a red-brown spot with a distinct edge or border line while the malignant mole or melanoma pictured beside it is blurry with an indistinct border, similar to a bruise.
C: “Color. Uneven coloring with shades of black, brown, or other colors.” The accompanying image of a normal mole is one solid color, brown, while the malignant mole or melanoma pictured beside it is splotchy with dark and lighter brown as well as black spots within the blurry boundary of the mark.
D: “Diameter. Larger than 0.25 inches or 4 millimeters [in diameter]” The accompanying image of a normal mole is overlaid with a pair of arrows and text that denotes that it is less than a quarter of an inch in diameter. The malignant mole or melanoma pictured beside it is overlaid with a similar set of arrows and text which denote that it is greater than a quarter of an inch in diameter.
E: “Evolving. Changing in size, shape, or color.” The pictures beside this criteria show several moles, which may or may not be cancerous next to a picture taken later, which shows that each of them has grown larger.
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Please remember that melanoma examples in medical journals and online are often exclusively of lighter skin tones.
on darker skin, keep an eye on hyper-pigmented moles or areas of skin that fit the above ABCDE descriptions of being asymmetrical with an indefinite border, abnormal color (like an area that is more ashy or red like a rash), with a large diameter* that is evolving in shape, size, and/or color:
[image id] two pictures of melanoma spots on dark skin, both with abnormal or blurred boundaries, texture, and color compared to the rest of the surrounding skin [end of id]
but also remember that signs of melanoma can also be seen in the nailbed (stripes or blotches on the skin under your fingernails or toenails) — on lighter skin, this may be a lighter or white stripe rather than a darker one:
[image id] two pictures of dark melanoma spots on nailbeds, one depicting an abnormally dark mole with no symmetry under a thumbnail and a thin dark stripe on the nailbed of another finger; the second image depicts a wide, dark stripe on a finger nail bed, which has also caused a split nail at the site of the mark [end of id]
as well as new moles or dark spots forming on the soles of your feet:
[image id] two pictures of dark spots on the sole of someone’s foot and border of someone’s sole, both on dark skin; both have abnormal borders and are significantly darker in pigment than the surrounding skin [end of id]
*a word of cautionary advice as someone with family friends who have died of skin cancers regarding the evolution or growth of a potential melanoma spot: if you have a mole or dark patch or possible melanoma that is not growing but meets other above criteria, do not wait for it to grow to get it checked out.
I want more people to know that while the Palestine Olympic team consists of only 8 athletes, at least 69 Palestinian Olympic athletes have been killed since October 2023. This includes athletes who were going to compete in these games and retired athletes such as Majed Abu Maraheel, the first Palestinian Olympian, who died of kidney failure in a refugee camp product of lack of medical treatment.
I basically just followed the format of the tragmat flag, but with anodiean colours mixed in. So the outside 2 colours are from anodiean, the off white from tragmat, I mixed the light yellow of tragmat with the anodiean yellow, then the 2 orange tragmat stripes with the anodiean orange stripe, the middle light orange is just from tragmat.
The symbol is just the same neptune(’s trident) symbol as in the tragmat flag, but I added light outlines around because I think it’s clean look, helps it stand out from the background colours.
Oh, and like in the original anodiean flag, you can use anonbinary for this flag if you want.
And I think this flag came out really nice. The anodiean flag has such nice colours 🙂
I chose the second one specifically, because I felt it fit better with the way the melauche flag gradients from dark to lighter colours. This flag is basically just following the melauche flag, but with the suptilian black added to the edges, the suptilian grey mixed with the melauche dark purple, and the suptilian white mixed with the melauche light yellow.
I also edited the colours a bit, just so they would gradient better, and added a light outline around the ♇ (pluto) symbol since I thought it’d look neater (and just make the contrast higher).
Biden’s stepped down for a younger, more competent genocidaire to take his place. Probably think they won’t need to change the policy as long as they change the face.
If any of you motherfuckers feel like giving him “props” for this or whatever I advise you to go and watch the videos of whimpering Palestinian children with their limbs amputated without anesthetic until the urge passes. And remember if he doesn’t cut Israel off right now and the party work to divest and impose sanctions while they’re still in power, your votes will still be soaked in blood.
If you VoteBlues are serious about not wanting genocide, now is a good time to demand the Dems nominate someone who actively opposes the genocide.
This is a useful list but just a gentle reminder that not everyone on the list was immediate in their support for a ceasefire and took weeks to months to proclaim support. There were like…. only a few congresspeople that immediately spoke up for Palestinians, and that includes Summer Lee and Rashida Tlaib. Just something to consider….
Iraq. And also Palestine. And also Syria and also Afghanistan and Pakistan.
During his presidency, Obama approved the use of 563 drone strikes that killed approximately 3,797 people. In fact, Obama authorized 54 drone strikes alone in Pakistan during his first year in office. One of the first CIA drone strikes under President Obama was at a funeral, murdering as many as 41 Pakistani civilians.
Idk how the fuck I forgot the entire country of Yemen but Obama was a war criminal to that country too. Used drones on countless civilians including visibly pregnant women. Democrats can huff my nuts
I guess Biden made the decision to drop out of the race.
What’s important is we all remember him as the genocidal war criminal he made himself out to be over the entirety of his campaign. He denied death tolls, he ignored the cries for help, and now thousands of civilians blood rests on his hands. Never forget, Joe Biden is a war criminal, and he should be held accountable to the highest extent. If not by a court, then at the very least by the people.
it’s pretty weird that “transvestite” was the first trans- word (iirc) but now people like those originally described by that term are seen as either (fetishistic) transphobes or cis people cosplaying trans people. like being transgender as in “has a different gender identity than the one they were assigned at birth” is only one way to be trans.
and transvestites still exist. transsexuals still exist. transgenders who identify with what they were assigned at birth but otherwise defy gendered expectations exist. transness is so incredibly varied and no trans person is harming any other by just trying to exist as their authentic self. imo literally anyone who does gender queerly can be trans and is impacted by transphobia.
Sarawak, a state in Borneo Malaysia where the largest green lungs of Southeast Asia is located has recently discovered a gold deposit worth RM 1.25 trillion under its pristine jungle.
Canada is home to 75 percent of the world’s mining companies. Firms based or listed in Canada operate approximately four thousand mineral projects abroad.
US states where a popular adult website will be blocked as of July 1, 2024
Fucking horrifying how many people in the notes think this is a good thing. Like yeah, I’m sure that this time conservatives are actually concerned about the children. Absolutely no other reason at play here. Its never a red flag when the government wants your id to police your sexual habits. That’s never been dangerous to the queer comminity, or anyone else. Yall are disturbingly easy to brainwash into going along with fascist bullshit.
Trans fem, neutral, & masc axab/intersex pride flags!
These 3 flags are based off of the more commonly used trans fem, neutral, and masc flags. But those flags used blue/pink, to signify what I assume is agab. So I made a axab version.
I personally don’t like those flags much; I prefer the 4 striped ones, since I don’t like my agab being referenced like that. But other people use them, so I thought there should be these versions too.
White was used because yellow was already used by trans neutral.
[ ID 1: A flag with seven horizontal stripes, in the following colors: white, pastel pink, light pink, pink, light pink, pastel pink and white. /End ID ]
[ ID 2: A flag with seven horizontal stripes, in the following colors: white, pastel yellow, light yellow, yellow, light yellow, pastel yellow and white. /End ID ]
[ ID 3: A flag with seven horizontal stripes, in the following colors: white, pastel blue, light blue, blue, light blue, pastel blue and white. /End ID ]
Did you tag it as eyestrain because of the bright yellows? Or do they all have issues (too low contrast)?
I’d like to make alt / new versions if there’s a eyestrain issue.
Specifically the yellow one I think has bright colors/low contrast. The other ones, to me, are fine!
Don’t know what some of these terms mean (e.g. aban)? I compiled them (and their sources) on my site [ A List Of Gender Terms ].
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I wanted to make flags for all the terms compiled on my site. Enban and enby already have flags, a lot of the other terms listed there don’t though. So since I was going to be making a bunch of flags anyways, I thought I should make nonbinary versions in the same format. (Also I don’t think enbinmel has a flag at all.)
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All these flags use the colours from the most common nonbinary flag.
For abinmel and aban, the format I kind of just went with what felt right / looked nice. Enbinmel I thought bright colours, with a more distinct format (so not just a smooth gradient), would be nice, and I made the stripes vertical since it looked too much like some orientation flags otherwise. Enban I thought dark colours would be fitting, maybe some desaturated colours could fit, but I didn’t want them to all be denatured because I feel like that gives the impression of a lack of joy, and being an adult is not just depression with extra steps, so they’re dark but saturated colours. I chose 6 stripes because 5 stripes looks a bit too much like other flags, and I think having even stripes gives it a distinct look. Often flags have an odd number of stripes.
Aby follows this girl flag (which has also been used for other diminutive flags, like boy and xip). I don’t know how to make any symbols for it though, since the original doesn’t just use ♀︎, but a altered version for girls specifically. If anyone wants to make symbols for it, please do.
[Image ID: a redesigned Enpercept created by Gent (Gender-Jargon). The flag consists of five, horizontal stripes, with the center stripe being twice as thick as all the others. From top to bottom, the stripes are grey-blue, dark teal, black, dark coral and lavender. ./. End ID]
Enpercept: a gender experience that is entirely unknowable and fundamentally incomprehensible, being unable to be understood by the individual experiencing it in any way, shape or form.
[PT: Enpercept: a gender experience that is entirely unknowable and fundamentally incomprehensible, being unable to be understood in any way, shape or form. ./. End PT]
Etymology
[PT: Etymology ./. End PT]
From Middle English, “En-”, a prefix used for negation + English, “Percept”, meaning “to perceive”. Literally, it means “Not Perceived”.
“Enpercept” is a noun for the identity itself. “Enpercept” was coined by Gent (Gender-Jargon) in June 2024 in this repost to provide a noun form.
Elaboration
[PT: Elaboration ./. End PT]
As stated in the original, now-archived post, Enpercept is an Uingender, but not an Agingender or Xingender.
This term does not indicate confusion regarding one’s gender, but rather an acknowledgment of one’s gender experience as being inherently unfathomable. As such, it is also not a Usingender.
To clarify, it’s the gender itself that is unintelligible, as opposed to being a label for those who are unable to make sense of their gender. An Enpercept individuals know they can’t know their gender and embrace that unknowability in their experience.
Enpercept is a outherine, atrinary gender, but it may also be categorized as diastine.
Pride Flag
[PT: Pride Flag ./. End PT]
This post features a redesigned flag of my original Enpercept(ine) pride flag. The flag was redesigned with a more cohesive color pallet and slightly changed design. This flag was created by Gent (Gender-Jargon) in June 2024.
The flag consists of five, horizontal stripes, with the center stripe being twice as thick as all the others. From top to bottom, the stripes are grey-blue, dark teal, black, dark coral and lavender. The colors have the following meanings:
The grey-blue stripe represents the ocean, which is used as a metaphor for the vast, deep unknown.
The dark teal stripe represents a lack of clarity.
The black stripe represents it’s unintelligible nature.
The dark coral stripe represents speculation.
The lavender stripe represents a sense of mystery.
[PT: The grey-blue stripe represents the ocean, which is used as a metaphor for the vast, deep unknown. The dark teal stripe represents a lack of clarity. The black stripe represents it’s unintelligible nature. The dark coral stripe represents speculation. The lavender stripe represents a sense of mystery. ./. End PT]
[image ID: The decligender pride flag, created by tumblr user mogai-guy, rerendered by Gender (Gender-Jargon). The flag consists of eight horizontal stripes, with the top stripe being much thicker than the rest. At the center of the top stripe is a black, near-equilateral black triangle pointing downwards. The stripes, from top to bottom, are colored light grey, black, white, black, white, purple, white and purple. ./. End ID]
Decligender: a gender identity characterized by repulsion to the concept of gender as a whole.
[PT: Decligender: a gender identity characterized by repulsion to the concept of gender as a whole. ./. End PT]
Etymology
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From English, “(to) decline”, modified to “Decli-”, meaning “to refuse” + “-gender”, and English neologistic suffix indicating genderedness. Coined by tumblr user Mogai-Guy in February 2019 (link) [PT: Coined by tumblr user Mogai-Guy in February 2019 (link) ./. End PT] as a response to this image posted by tumblr user Genderoftheday (now defunct):
[Image ID: The question, “what is your gender?”, with a select-drop-down menu, featuring the characteristic down-pointing arrow. The default selections says “Select Gender”, followed by “Male”, “Female” and “Decline”. Decline is highlighted purple. ./. End ID]
Elaboration
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Decligender is similar to, but different from, Apothigender. Both experience involve repulsion in regards to gender (RIN, Ringender), but in distinct ways.
Apothigender involves a sense of repulsion of having a gender applied to oneself. For the apothigender individual, the repulsion is directed at gender in relation purely to oneself. An Apothigender individual does not have a gender, does not want one and finds the thought of it repulsive.
Decligender involves a sense of repulsion directed at the concept of gender as a whole. A decligender individual may lead an existence in which they act unaffected by participation in the construct of gender. A Decligender individual does not have a gender, does not want one, finds the thought repulsive and is repulsed by the concept all-together.
Decligender encompasses and surpasses Apothigender. Decligender is an outherine, atrinary gender. It may also be considered diastine.
The flag posted here was rerendered by Gent (Gender-Jargon) in June 2024, but was originally posted and designed by tumblr user Mogai-Guy in February 2019 (link) [PT: The flag posted here was rerendered by Gent (Gender-Jargon) in June 2024, but was originally posted and designed by tumblr user Mogai-Guy in February 2019 (link) ./. End PT].
The flag consists of eight horizontal stripes, with the top stripe being much thicker than the rest. At the center of the top stripe is a black, near-equilateral black triangle pointing downwards. The stripes, from top to bottom, are colored light grey, black, white, black, white, purple, white and purple.
The flag is based upon the image of the “What Is Your Gender” drop-down menu included above. The flag utilizes the same color pallet of the image with minor adjustment. Though not directly stated, I presume that the design carries the following meanings:
the top stripe represents the drop-down menu from the image, symbolizing the concept of gender.
The subsequent white, black and purple stripes represent gender norms, repulsion related to the concept of gender itself and a declination of the concept of gender, respectively.
[PT: the top stripe represents the drop-down menu from the image, symbolizing the concept of gender. The subsequent white, black and purple stripes represent gender norms, repulsion related to the concept of gender itself and a declination of the concept of gender, respectively. ./. End PT]
since mrs, ms, and mr are all descended from the latin word magister, i propose the gender neutral version should be mg, short for “mage”
some people think this is a shitpost so i want to clarify that i am dead fucking serious. make mage the official gender neutral honorific NOW. i want it on my passport. i want it on my bank account. i want doctors and judges to use it for me. i don’t care if it sounds a little silly. people thought “missus” sounded crass at first. call me mg.
benefits of mg:
easy to pronounce, even for children (though kids 4 & younger may pronounce it more like “mayd” or “maygh”)
ONE SYLLABLE!!! (“individual” is too goddamn LONG.) you have to be able to say it quickly and casually
ends in a soft consonant sound, so it’ll flow right into the next word (“ind” halts the whole sentence)
fits neatly into the existing structure as a relative of master/mistress that can be abbreviated down to an m and one other letter
distinct enough that it can’t be mistaken for either gendered term (if you call me mix I’ll kill you. it sounds like miss with extra steps)
wizard.
drawbacks:
there aren’t any
yes, i know about milligrams and magnesium. i don’t give a shit. ms can also mean microsoft. who cares.
Just a thought for the night, but remember in 2016 there were all these accounts that seemed really really telling you all the ways Hillary Clinton was some kind of demon woman, just the worst, and really Trump wouldn’t be worse and maybe he’d even be better?
and then it turned out they got banned for being literally Russian agents and never came back because spoiler they were?
does it feel like that all over again? just a thought.
No it doesn’t feel like that again because you don’t need to be paid off by the Russians to think Genocide is bad. It does take a special kind of amorality to think the only way you can be against genocide is if you are a Russian agent.
But then again you are are so politically illiterate you think saying Biden is bad is the same as supporting Trump so …
Though the terms were coined, I didn’t find any flags for them. I really like the terms, so I chose to just make some myself.
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The colours mainly just come from the ilyagender flag, and follows the formats of the -spec and -in-gender flags. I made the grey colour a bit warmer, just since I thought it’d look better. The colours in general are also hue shifted a bit, again just for aesthetics. (I think a slight hue “gradient”, where it goes from yellow orange, to orange, to red orange, and so on, looks better than just darker and lighter shades of the exact same hue.)
girlmaeli : a trans woman who’s connected to manhood, the way that they’re a girl/woman is through the lens of manhood/being amab. They’re not a man but their woman gender/what being a woman to them is shaped by being male/amab or something similar.
boymaeli : a trans man who’s connected to womanhood, the way that they’re a boy/man is through the lens of womanhood/being afab. They’re not a woman but their man gender/what being a man to them is shaped by being female/afab or something similar.
― a term for lesboys who are masculine, but not butch. It is similar to futch.
[ PT: 🌊 Chapstick lesboy /End PT ]
[ ID: A flag with seven horizontal stripes, in the following colors: soft purple, soft darker pink, light orange, off-white, pastel blue, soft navy blue and soft indigo. /End ID ]
Cisqueerhet: identifying as and/or with/being cis*, queer, and het; queer cishets; cisqueer straights; cisgender queerhets.
This includes: queer people identifying as/with being cis*het; straight cis*genderqueeries; cissex qingender hets; cisgender strayts reclaiming the q-word, and many other experiences.
Disclaimer: despite it encompasses many life experiences, it’s about consensual self-determination, if someone doesn’t want to be refferred by it but still identify with/as cisqueerhet, let them alone and don’t misdenominate.
[transcript: 5 horizontal stripes of royal blue, pink, white, pink, and royal blue. end ID.]
Cismasc Transfem: an individual who experiences gender masculinity as part of their cisness and gender femininity as part of their transness; a femasc multigender or mascfem centrigender who was assigned male at birth; an intersex or otherwise sex nonconforming person who experiences masculine cissexness and feminine transsexness; a cistrans/transcis (trisgender) femmasc folk; a varsexgender experience (such as cistransen/cissex transgender or transcisen/cisgender transsex); a GNC/PNC folk who transitioned or is crossnominal; or members from a plural system (such as detragender (azlian/levian/eclian) or utrinquegender/fulgurmasc/lapisfem).
Someone can use the combination of both terms for reasons other than I listed here (such as being a cismasculine trans woman and/or a transfeminine cis man).
[Image: three horizontal stripes sized as three-four-three and colored with pear, indigo, and wine. End ID.]
TMA/TMC (transmisogyny-affected/-constrained/-confined): An attempt at more accurately describing the experiences of people based on whether they are targeted by transmisogyny instead of relying on assumptions around birth assignment.
This flag represents those who are affected directly by transmisogyny, such as transfeminine people, trans women, some non-binary individuals who were assigned male at birth (AMAB/DMAB), and some intersex folks.
1. How long have you been polyamorous or been practicing polyamory?
I have probably been poly all my life. I had more than one polyamorous relationship as a teenager and my first adult relationship (at 17 after joining the service) was poly. I spent more than 20 years in – primarily – poly relationships prior to meeting my current wife. Even though we have been monogamous for the 15 years of our marriage, I still consider myself poly because I am capable and willing to be in a polyamorous relationship.
2. What does your relationship dynamic look like?
Before I can answer that question, I have to explain something. For me, the choice between poly and mono is not a binary choice. I see an entire spectrum between non – monogamy and monogamy. In point of fact, a poly friend of mine coined the phrase “Ambiamorous” to describe my relationship style – someone who is capable of being either monogamous or polyamorous and able to go back and forth with relative ease.
My current relationship dynamic is what is referred to as a Poly/Mono relationship. My wife is monogamous and I am polyamorous. It is a difficult relationship dynamic to do successfully and we are in that process. There are many that have successfully worked this style of relationship and I have a great deal of confidence that my wife and I will also be successful doing it. There are lots of pitfalls to navigate when approaching this type of relationship and we have – so far – navigated most of them. It helps that my wife was fully aware of me being poly when we got married. I made the decision to be monogamous with her, and she was the one that brought up attempting to make the transition to a poly/mono relationship.
3. What aspect of polyamory do you excel at?
I wouldn’t say that I excel at any part any than anyone else. I have always valued good communication, I have always used negotiation and I am a fairly self-aware person. These – to me – are essential for making any relationship work (poly or mono) but I would not say that I am any more exceptional than anyone else.
If I excel at anything, it is seeing that we are all individuals and not putting expectations on anyone else. Being Native American, that is actually a core belief of our culture.
4. What aspect of polyamory do you struggle with?
Being ADHD, I struggle with chaos all the time. Chaos, not fear, is my mind killer. When things get really chaotic in a relationship, I can meltdown pretty quickly (usually that means that crawl into myself and hide). By its very nature, poly can be VERY chaotic. The more people you add the mix, the more potential chaos that can result. I have found that my effective limit is 3 partners – and then only if two or more of those partners are nested with me. Anything beyond that, and I tend to lose track of things and start feeling very stressed. This – as well as some other elements of my nature – is one of the reasons I prefer to stay more on the poly fi side of the spectrum. I tend to have very intense and long term relationships with a small number of people rather than more casual relationships.
5. How do you address and/or overcome those struggles?
I overcome this issue by knowing myself and using the tools at my disposal to reduce the amount of chaos in any relationship.
By knowing myself, I know what I am capable of dealing with and when I am starting to have issues. I can usually express those issues pretty well, which helps to resolve them.
When I find myself getting stressed due to chaos (or drama), I use communication and negotiation to reduce the stress. In nine out of ten situations, just expressing what I am feeling and listening to my partner’s response is usually all it takes to resolve the issues.
6. In terms of risk-aware/safer sex, what do you and your partners do to protect one another?
At this point, I am only having sex with my wife. Since we have been married monogamously for 15 years, and we have both been tested, there isn’t an issue.
When I do start having relationships outside my marriage, I will get tested again (to have a current test result) and I will use safe sex protections. I may fluid bond with someone else eventually, but a lot has to happen before that occurs.
7. What is the worst mistake you’ve ever made in your polyamorous history and how did you rebound from that?
In the 20 years I was poly before meeting my wife, I made quite a few of the “new to poly” mistakes. It helped that poly is part of my culture, and it helps that jealousy is not an issue for me also because of my culture, but I have made plenty of other mistakes.
They “worst” mistake I ever made was agreeing to something that I knew was something that I shouldn’t have agreed to. Being who I am, I do not tolerate others telling me what I can and can’t do. That said, when these issues come up, I negotiate to an agreement. More than once, I have agreed to something that I should have NOT agreed to. I should have either pushed the issue more or walked away.
To “rebound” from this issue, I attempt to renegotiate the issue. If it is something that is causing me pain or emotional stress, it is something I HAVE to renegotiate because I am ill-equipped to deal with stress for long periods of time. I have also learned that sometimes you have to just walk away – even if you love someone.
8. What self-identities are important to you? How do you feel like being polyamorous intersects with or affects these identities?
1) First and foremost, I am a Native American. I strongly identify with my culture and heritage. I follow a more traditional Native American belief system and I try to live with my heritage and culture in mind all the time. Since polyamory and polygamy is a part of my culture, it intersects with poly just fine. In some ways, it has made being poly MUCH easier – for example, I do not feel jealousy in the traditional sense.
2) Second, as a Native American, I walk my own path. I do not need anyone else to approve of my path. I do not need anyone else’s permission to be myself. I do not have relationships to meet any need I have other than companionship. I have relationships because I like to share my life with others and I like to see the world from someone else’s perspective (I like to see the world through someone else’s eyes). I can do that monogamously and I can do that with polyamory. I prefer to be poly, but it isn’t necessary for me to be so. What is necessary, is for me to be true to my own heart and path.
i would like to point out that in order to believe comparing palestinian genocide to hiroshima, bosnian genocide, the holocaust, armenian genocide, etc would be trivializing those events, you must first believe palestinian genocide is trivial in itself.
palestinian lives are not expendable. get that through your head before you start talking down to them and their supporters.
Do people realize that Israel is so unrestrained that it’s now launching attacks in Lebanon and Syria as well. Do people realize how little Arab people mean to these genocidal maniacs that they are now killing people in three Arab countries. Can genocide apologists pause their pure hatred for Arabs to at the very least admit this. Or are we going to pretend that Israel has a reason to be intensifying attacks in Damascus right now
The og flags ARE LITERALLY SO UGLY so I made my own, colorpicked from pansexual, omnisexual & pomosexual
The one with the green stripe is omniaropomo, the one with the purple stripe is omniacepomo & the one with both is omniaroacepomo
Omniaropomo is when a person is on the aromantic spectrum but is unsure where specifically, and has no preference for the gender of their partner. Omniaropomo is a combination of three different words:
Omni, indicating both omniromantic and panromantic, shows that this person is attracted to all genders/doesn’t have any gender preferences.
Aro indicates that they are aro-spec.
Pomo is short for pomoromantic and indicates that they do not know, or care to label themselves more specifically, and/or because they feel there is not currently a term within the LGBTQ+ community to properly describe their identity when it comes to romantic relationships and/or activities.
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Omniacepomo is when a person is on the asexual spectrum but is unsure where specifically, and has no preference for the gender of their partner. Omniacepomo is a combination of three different words:
Omni, indicating both omnisexual and pansexual, shows that this person is attracted to all genders/doesn’t have any gender preferences.
Ace indicates that they are ace-spec.
Pomo is short for pomosexual and indicates that they do not know, or care to label themselves more specifically, and/or because they feel there is not currently a term within the LGBTQ+ community to properly describe their identity when it comes to sexual relationships and/or activities.
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Omniaroacepomo is when a person is on the aromantic asexual spectrum but is unsure where specifically, and has no preference for the gender of their partner. Omniaroacepomo is a combination of three different words:
Omni, indicating both omniromantic/omnisexual and panromantic/pansexual, shows that this person is attracted to all genders/doesn’t have any gender preferences.
Aroace indicates that they are aroace-spec.
Pomo is short for pomoromantic/pomosexual and indicates that they do not know, or care to label themselves more specifically, and/or because they feel there is not currently a term within the LGBTQ+ community to properly describe their identity when it comes to romantic/sexual relationships and/or activities.
Just in case you were wondering why it’s getting pushed through ASAP
Reasons the gov is banning tiktok
It’s the backbone of the BDS and other boycotts, which are actually working for once
Information spreads faster and more freely than on US-owned social media apps
It’s the largest source of direct communication coming from the citizens of Gaza, completely unfiltered
It’s ALSO where people are seeing IDF soldiers gleefully post the war crimes they’re doing
Not reasons the US is banning tiktok
Data safety concerns (bc they KNOW that Facebook sells our data to China and also if they really cared about data safety they would pass a law on. You know. That. Specifically)
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Israel accused Brazilian President Luiz Inacio Lula da Silva of trivialising the Holocaust and causing offence to the Jewish people on Sunday after he likened the Israeli war against Hamas militants in Gaza to the Nazi genocide during World War Two.
“What is happening in the Gaza Strip with the Palestinian people has no parallel in other historical moments. In fact, it did exist when Hitler decided to kill the Jews,” Lula told reporters during the 37th African Union Summit in Addis Ababa.
The Foreign Ministry in Jerusalem said it would summon the Brazilian ambassador for a reprimand over the remarks, which Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu described as “disgraceful and grave”.
“This is a trivialisation of the Holocaust and an attempt to attack the Jewish people and the right of Israel to self-defence. Drawing comparisons between Israel and the Nazis and Hitler is to cross a red line,” Netanyahu said in a statement.
Just like Republicans, they’re more offended at people pointing out that they’re recreating the Holocaust than they are worried that they’re literal fucking Nazis.
One of the things that pisses me off most about this genocide and overall occupation is how many people say it’s so complicated and there’s so much nuance and there isn’t one easy solution. This is one of the simplest things I have ever seen. Zionists invaded palestine in 1947-48. They have occupied it for 76 years while taking more and more land. They kidnap and torture and massacre Palestinians day in day out for those 76 years. They control every aspect of Palestinian life, including their water and medical care. And now they are committing another genocide against them. Where is the complication? What is hard to understand? “Well, Jewish people need a place where they won’t be discriminated against” I absolutely agree. So make every country in the world safe for Jewish people. Fight against anti Semitism across the world. Don’t commit a genocide and set up an ethnostate.
Internull or internul: An inter-expressive person whose gender expression is null; or identifying as a null gender in a uniquely intersex-way (inter-system); intergender/intervestic nullity (internullity)
is there an identity like this for ppl who are not intersex /gq
Adnull, transnull, sensnull, nullenby, or simply gendernull are all possibilities. Null is also used standalonely.
Brazilian president Lula (PT) stated this Sunday 18th that what is happening in the Gaza Strip is not a war, but a genocide, and compared Israel’s action to that of Nazi dictator Adolf Hitler against the Jews.
“What is happening in the Gaza Strip to the Palestinian people does not exist at any other historical moment. In fact, it exists. When Hitler decided to kill the Jews,” he said.
Asked about the Brazilian government’s decision to be the new donor to the UN Agency for Palestinian Refugees, Lula criticized the leaders of the countries that decided to suspend contributions.
“When I see the rich world announce that it is stopping contributing to the humanitarian issue for the Palestinians, I wonder how much political awareness these people have?”, he said. “And how big is the heart of solidarity of these people who cannot see that in the Gaza Strip there is not a war happening, but a genocide?”
The president also questioned: “Who will help rebuild those houses that were destroyed? Who will repay the lives of 30 thousand people who have already died? 170 thousand who are injured. Who will give back the lives of children who died without knowing why they were dying? Is this enough to disturb the humanitarian sense of the planet’s political leaders?”
“It is not a war between soldiers and soldiers. It is a war between a highly prepared Army and women and children. Look, if there was an error in that institution that collects the money, find out who made the mistake. But do not suspend humanitarian aid for the people who have been trying to build their state for decades”, concluded Lula.
I’m actually quite proud of having voted for him. He was bold, Brazilian’s newspapers are roasting him for saying the TRUTH, but is this kind of boldness that we need right now.
Lula, Brazil’s President, compares the actions of Israel to those of Hitler during the Shoah (and he’s completely correct) and for Netanyahu THIS was crossing a red line. For Netanyahu, it’s okay to walk like a Nazi, act like a Nazi, but the limit for him is being compared to a Nazi. I’ve already said it on Twitter and I’ll do it here too: there is no ancestral trauma that justifies and shields Israel’s genocidal actions and anyone who defends this is, at the very least, dishonest.
i made a flag for bisexual sapphics upon request, which i’ve named the selenian bisexual flag. the flag is inspired by both violets, which are used to resemble sapphics, and the moon, which is often used to resemble bisexuals, feminity, and women. this is inclusive of all bi sapphics, please use this flag in good faith.
edit: i forgot about the existence of selenic, a term for bisexual sapphics. you could consider this as an alternate selenic flag, or if you like the term ‘selenian bisexual’ better, feel free to use that as a term instead. as for the subset of lunarian, this flag is not affiliated with that term or meaning in any way. i won’t be changing the name of the flag, because it’s ultimately meant to be a flag name like ‘morganite transfem,’ not a term name.
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What is or isn’t a slur can be highly contextual, y’all.
“Jonny Sims bummed a fag off my ma” doesn’t contain a slur, but “What are you, some kind of fag?” does.
“Queer studies”, “the queer community” and “I’m queer”? Not a slur. Some bigot calling you a “dirty queer”? Slur.
“Be gay, do crimes” and “He’s gay” ≠ slur, but “Ew, that’s so gay” = slur.
In conclusion, stop buying into this fucking “q slur” bullshit. Queer people talking about the queer community aren’t using it as a slur any more than a gay man calling himself gay is using that term as a slur.
Looks like its time for derogatory pepperoni again
That is actually hilarious, thank you for this addition
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Masctransfemic: a gender for being transfem in a masculine way.
Etymology: masc, transfem, “ic” meaning of or pertaining to
made in honor of the now-extinct population of Falasteen crocodiles, the sunbirds that almost lost their names, and everyone else surviving the attempted erasure.
posted the other week as part of an ongoing fundraiser offering free prints and paid, with 100% of proceeds going to Care for Gaza. it has since been translated, wheatpasted, and flown on kites all over the world from Saigon to Scotland…!!!
monetary donations are never a substitute for holistic political action, and a push for a different world… but the shows of solidarity and support have lifted my spirits so much.
this is now available on a t-shirt too, screenprinted by hand in Texas!same deal: all profits go to food, medicine, and other critical supplies via Care for Gaza (& the PCRF). thank you for sharing.
Stop appropriating the black struggle against racism and oppression to defend ethnic cleansing and genocide.
Woke is a term that meant aware of racial prejudices and discrimination. It has NEVER involved creating a black supremacy state hinged on the violent expulsion of non-blacks as Zionism does pertaining to Jews. This term has of course been co-opted by the right to mean anything pertaining to social justice.
Zionism on the other hand is a white European Christian and Jewish movement that has NOTHING to do with the racial discrimination, Jim Crow laws, mass incarceration, and 500 hundred years of slavery that black Americans endured and still endure to this day. The formal definition of Zionism is “an international movement originally for the establishment of a Jewish national or religious community in Palestine and later for the support of modern Israel” which is EXACTLY how it is meant when used by the left today. We are not twisting or distorting it at ALL.
Now, back to why Zionists need to stop appropriating black oppression:
While black and indigenous Americans have the lowest incomes in the US, Jewish Americans have some of the highest of all religious and racial groups.
Are Ashkenazi Jews black? Hispanic? No, they fall into the white category ⬇️
While black and native Americans have the highest rates of police violence and incarceration in the country Ashkenazi Jews enjoy their white privilege ⬇️
While Americans hold prejudice and stereotypes against Muslims, Jews are the most loved religious group in the country.
So seriously, take your fake victim narrative and stfu. Everyone is tired of it.
i hate when americans get asked about the israeli/palestinian conflict and they say “well it’s not really my place to have an opinion” our country literally funds genocide against the palestinian people in the name of “defense” it absolutely is our business, we should be as mad as we can as loudly as possible.
re: that last post, ive said it before and ill say it again: no one deserves to die (deserving is fake and death is bad) but some people need to be stopped and choose to make death the only way to stop them
I disagree. Pedophiles 100% deserve death.
you are moralizing and weaponizing your disgust in order to construct and justify a category of person you’re allowed to murder
what do you think you deserve for this?
Sorry, no person deserves to die, thankfully child molesters and pedophiles aren’t human, so this doesnt apply to them.
denying the humanity of people who do horrible things accomplishes exactly three things:
give cover to people who haven’t been caught yet by allowing them to use their humanity as “proof” of their innocence
silence any criticism of societal structures and institutions that facilitate those horrible things by putting the focus on individuals who are assumed to be so uniquely monstrous that the ways it was made easy for them are irrelevant
provide a shortcut to dehumanize anyone you feel like killing: simply accuse them of doing a horrible thing
3.a. if you’ve already established that only an inhuman monster could kill a child, then all you have to do to get people to burn down the jewish quarter is say that jews kidnap christian children to bathe in their blood
3.b. if you’ve already established that only an inhuman monster could commit rape, then all you have to do to get people to string up a black man you don’t like is find a white woman who’s willing to point at him while she cries and babbles
3.c. if you’ve already established that only an inhuman monster could molest a child, then all you have to do to get people to drag gay people behind their trucks is say that since gay people can’t have babies, the only way they can make more gay people is by following a nefarious Agenda to “convert” children by molesting them
3.c.a. meanwhile if you try to address the rampant sexual assault of catholic altar boys, you’re met with “don’t be ridiculous, he’s a priest!” (see #1) and with assertions that even if it does happen sometimes, those priests are just infiltrators who don’t represent the church and there’s no reason to make sure priests and altar boys are never alone together (see #2)
tl;dr: your disgust-based violent politics are not less reactionary than any run-of-the-mill homophobe or racist’s disgust-based violent politics
I realized how bad of a take this was after I added my last bit, i apologize for the idiocy i portrayed in my half thought out statements. And I appreciate the way you rebutted this with reasonable statements rather than going hog wild because I said something you didnt agree with.
hey no worries. we’ve all been there, and anyone who says they havent is either 11 or afraid of their social circle
unlearning our kneejerk reactions is a process, and it’s not a linear one. its good to practice thinking before we post, but sometimes thinking after we post just has to be good enough
They don’t want us to call what’s happening in Gaza a genocide not because there’s not been an official ruling but because these things don’t get set in people’s minds via official ruling. Instead it is the oral history that sets an event into place in mass consciousness.
Us calling it what it is – a genocide – means they can’t wriggle out of it in years to come. They can’t continue to call it a conflict or a war if we cement it in public consciousness as a genocide.
So don’t tone down your language. Call it what it is. Make sure the history books know what happened and the genocides that took place in Palestine, Sudan, Congo.
Denial and control of language is a powerful tool for genocide supporters, especially for soft supporters.
Genocide relies on a lot of acquiescence and denial and complacency and pretending it’s not happening.
Genocide relies on a lot of what Sartre calls “bad faith” ( https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bad_faith_(existentialism) ). This is different from the rhetoric of lying to another, but is about lying to oneself.
Calling these genocides what they are challenges that comfortable self-deception and challenges the load bearing lie that “I am a good person if I just collaborate with power”.
Qilin are benevolent creatures, but do not mistake that kindness for weakness. They are powerful creatures that will fight fiercely to protect the innocent and punish the wicked. Solidarity with Palestine 🇵🇸
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When I announced my plans for Third Sex and Eunuch Pride Day, members of the eunuch community on the social media I use began sending me the same copy-pasted message, like some old-fashioned chain letter: March 24th is International Eunuch Day.
No source was given for this information, and Google revealed nothing. This was but a mild inconvenience. In my research on modern eunuchs I had frequently heard of a castration fetish website where real eunuchs began forming support groups back in 1996. Hypothesizing that this was most likely the source of the information, I spent over a day digging through its archives and was proven correct when I found the “coining” post dated to 2006.
The man who made the suggestion, though anonymous, revealed many details about himself: straight, in his mid-sixties, living in California, whose interest in eunuchs was purely academic. I have no doubt that this person is Thomas Wayne Johnson, retired professor of anthropology at California State University, Chico-who, in 2014, looked two days older than death.
He is one of the most prolific writers on the subject of eunuchs in present society and upon whom the Word Professional Association for Transgender Health relied heavily when writing the eunuch chapter for the Standards of Care version 8. He is, in fact, one of its writers.
And I don’t like him.
When I first read the eunuch chapter I was…unimpressed-the Transgender Map website is actually more informative on the subject (not surprising). Still, seeing how often the chapter cites Mr. Johnson’s and his frequent co-author Richard Wassersug’s (professor of anatomy and neurobiology at Dalhousie University, Nova Scotia) work, I decided to track down these articles. The few journals I was able to gain access to (12 in total, spanning the years 2004-2023) immediately presented various problems in their research.
Because the population of eunuchs is so small, everybody knows everybody, and one of the men I’m acquainted with happens to be one of the research subjects for the eunuch chapter. He explained to the authors that eunuchs are incredibly diverse: there are female-to-eunuch women, female-to-eunuch men, intersex-to-eunuch people-but you would never know this from reading the Standards of Care-and it’s not because these three groups of people only comprise 3% of the eunuch population and the authors simply didn’t find any in the time allotted for revising S.O.C. version 7…
…it’s because they deliberately threw out surveys turned in by these people, which Mr. Johnson has openly admitted to. (“Eunuchs in Contemporary Society: Characterizing Men Who are Voluntarily Castrated [Part 1],” Thomas W. Johnson et al., Journal of Sexual Medicine volume 4, issue 4, July 2007, p. 932: “…after the removal of answers from nongenetic XY males…”)-a total of 25 people that W.P.A.T.H. never bothered to consult because they don’t conform to Messrs. Johnson’s and Wassersug’s carefully constructed narrative of eunuchs as weird genderqueer men.
Furthermore, in the article just cited, they describe eunuchs as having sexual paraphilias-
“But Mr. Thirdsexmanifesto!” you counter, “that article was written 17 years ago, haven’t they moved away from psychopathologizing the trans community like the rest of W.P.A.T.H.?”
Hm.
In their article “Choosing Castration: A Thematic Analysis of the Perceived Pros and Cons of Genital Injuries and Ablation by Men Who Voluntarily Sought Castration,” (Archives of Sexual Behavior, volume 52, issue 3, April 2023) p. 1191, they state that ONLY asexual eunuchs (4% of the population) have male-to-eunuch gender dysphoria, while the remaining 96% who are allosexual have a mental disorder called Body Integrity Dysphoria, and even go so far as to speculate that playing with Ken dolls as a child leads men to castrate themselves later in life (ibid. p.1184).
Mr. Johnson and his colleagues have been criticized for conflating eunuchism with Body Integrity Dysphoria for over a decade (“Letter to the Editor,” Anne A. Lawrence, Journal of Sexual Medicine, volume 7, issue 2, Part 1, February 2010, p. 853), and in truth, their conflation is incorrect.
Body Integrity Dysphoria is the compelling need to be SEVERELY DISABLED by removing limbs and a LACK of gender incongruence (I.C.D.-11 Disorders of bodily distress or bodily experience 6C21). From personal experience, allosexual eunuchs who have surgery are LESS disabled because the new comfort with their bodies enhances sexual functioning and reduces social anxiety when finding partners and going to nude beaches.
Yet Mr. Johnson and his cohorts are adamant in psychopathologizing allosexual eunuchs-but again, you would never know this from reading the Standards of Care version 8, the editors of which, to their credit, stamped out all of Mr. Johnson’s batshit crazy conclusions, destigmatizing and unequivocally stating eunuchs can have any gender and any sexual orientation.
Why even use Mr. Johnson’s research in the first place? You may be asking yourself at this point.
Simply because he is the only one studying eunuchs and is inseparable from Richard Wassersug, the only publicly known eunuch, who believes everyone who isn’t identical to him-an asexual male who uses “eunuch” as a synonym for neutrois-is a sexual deviant.
Reinforcing his and Mr. Johnson’s beliefs is their curious habit of EXCLUSIVELY using the castration fetish website I alluded to earlier to pool their research subjects from. Out of the thousands of people who use the site to publish their erotica, less than 300 are actually eunuchs. Relying on such a tiny population for 20 years of research has skewed their vision-and Mr. Wassersug’s excessive and obsessive questions about how young eunuchs were when they first learned of castration comes across as paraphiliac in and of itself-IF I may surmise.
Most eunuchs avoid castration fetishists, who are like trans chasers, just mixed with Jeffrey Dahmer and Dark Web cannibal markets (this is not an exaggeration). But Johnson et al. are equally adamant in ignoring larger, more diverse populations.
For all these reasons, and hundreds more that would be too tedious to list, I will not be observing International Eunuch Day, nor endorsing it, and will instead stick to my Third Sex and Eunuch Pride Day on the actual equinox.
Other sources used in writing this post:
“New Age Eunuchs: Motivation and Rationale for Voluntary Castration,” Richard J. Wassersug, Sara A. Zelenietz, G. Farrell Squire, Archives of Sexual Behavior, volume 33, number 5, October 2004, pp. 433-442.-The oldest paper I could find. Research began in 2002, shortly after Mr. Wassersug was treated for prostate cancer in 1998. It’s fairly bland and conventional. What’s telling is that he uses a wider variety of study groups and believes that playing with Ken dolls has no impact on future eunuch status (p.438), showing that his views started becoming more extreme after partnering with Thomas Johnson in 2007.
“The Joy of Being a Eunuch,” Marc Abrahams, The Guardian, April 1st, 2008.-A little blurb about Professor Wassersug (who looks like Michael Gambon’s Dumbledore in a suit and bowtie) and his research on eunuchs.
“Eunuch as a Gender Identity after Castration,” Wassersug, Emma McKenna, Tucker Lieberman, Journal of Gender Studies, volume 21, number 3, September 2012, pp.253-270.-This article made me VERY uncomfortable. Essentially what Mr. Wassersug is advocating for is conversion therapy for survivors of prostate cancer, to force them to become “third gender” trans people. I warn cancer survivors wanting to read this that it will be triggering-I’ve never had cancer but even I was triggered by the things he said. It shows a marked turn in his viewpoints on his path to becoming the Blaire White of eunuchs.
“Transforming the Normative: Recognizing Diversity in Sex, Gender, and Sexuality,” Jaime Becker, dissertation submitted to University of California, 2013, pp. 19-20.-In which the author recounts leaving one of Thomas Johnson’s eunuch lectures because it was too sexist and being unable to find any trans people who used “eunuch” as a nonbinary gender in their research.
“Islamic State lacks key Ingredient to make ‘Caliphate’ Work: Eunuchs,” Johnson and Wassersug, The Washington Post, October 21st, 2014.-“I.S.I.S.” as it was more popularly known, one of the factions during the Syrian civil war led by Abu Bakr al-Baghdadi. It’s an open letter to Mr. al-Baghdadi, instructing him on how to conquer the country: sexually mutilate prisoners of war to create a slave race. It is, perhaps, the bizarrest thing I’ve read, and shows the authors have gone into the deep end of cuckooville on the subject of eunuchs.
“My Son was Castrated as a Result of a Medical Error. Is it OK to Raise Him as a Eunuch?” Johnson and Wassersug, Annals of Medicine and Surgery, volume 68, August 2021 (page numbers not given, 3 pages long).-Claiming to receive e-mails from concerned parents, the authors are transparent in their bioessentialist ideology: people without testicles CANNOT be men, and strongly suggest the parents pressure the boy into becoming transgender.
“Exposure to Information about Castration and Emotional Trauma before Puberty are Associated with Men’s Risk of Seeking Genital Ablation as Adults,” James Agapoff, Richard Wassersug, Thomas Johnson, Erik Wibowo, Sexual Medicine, volume 11, issue 2, April 2023 (page numbers not given, 8 pages long).-The title is self-explanatory. It reads like thinly-veiled castration porn for math nerds. Page 2 is a doozy of heterosexism and psychopathologization: attraction to men with atypical genitals is “paraphilic;” uses the xenomelia scale (used to assess people with Body Integrity Dysphoria) to measure subjects eunuchness; and equates child abuse with higher rates of transgenderism. And it doesn’t get any better: p.3 asks subjects how often they played with toys that lacked genitals in childhood. Page 5 equates seeing castrated animals or people in childhood with higher risk of eunuchism. Page 6 claims being attracted to eunuchs makes one bisexual. Then in their conclusion on p.7 backtrack everything they just said-eunuchs are perfectly normal people without any social transgender contagion and all the statistics they compiled don’t mean anything-but for FUCK’S SAKE you would NEVER guess that from the title or reading the article itself, and I can see exactly where transmeds and truscums get their derogatory beliefs about eunuchs from.
So you’re pro-xenogender and support nonbinary bihets but you don’t believe in mspec lesbians?…..
……How does that work?
They don’t even hide they believe non-binary gendered identities are fake. They don’t let us quantify our attraction using multi identities unless we are attracted to all genders or at least both men and women.
It’s all “non-binary isn’t a monolithic/single third gender”, but do they notice this enforce the idea nonbinary people are still male or female while also degendering all nonbinary genders‽
It is not that hard to not buy things. To not watch things. Perhaps it is inconvenient, and makes you go out of your way, and costs a little more to buy alternatives. But if you were to attend a funeral a day for every child that has died in Gaza so far, it would take you over 27 years. When the worst that will happen to you is that you don’t watch a TV show featuring a zionist, you don’t buy a specific brand that donates to and supports zionism, how could that possibly compare to the plight of Palestinians who must amputate limbs without anesthesia?
Once again, this is the BDS list of brands to boycott.
Here is a comprehensive post about more actions you can take in support of Palestine.
Here is a list of verifiable orgs that provide aid on the ground.
credible organisations that are doing work on the ground in Palestine:
Care for Gaza:non-profit charity that distributes money, food and other resources directly to families in Gaza.They maintain a regular presence on Twitter and Instagram. You can donate to them via Paypal here.
These are not terms for feminine gays or masculine lesbians, rather they are terms for being attracted to [insert gender presentation]
Being gay or lesbian for [insert gender presentation] is a term for those who feels their attraction to masculine individuals is gay, their attraction to feminine individuals is lesbian, etc. They could be considered subsets of minsexual, finsexual, ninsexual, linsexual, xinsexual or nullsexual.
Nullboygirl / girlboy | Nemiboygirl / girlboy
Nemiboy | Nemigirl
Some misc null flags from my previous posts cuz Tumblr has a stupid fucking 10 image limit on mobile
You might need to sit down for this one but ethnostates shoud not exist, regardless of what continent they might be on lmao
The existence of an ethnostate by default means the subjugation and violence committed against other groups of people and you cannot name anywhere, definitely not a continent, where a homogenous ethostate can be established without displacing the people already living there who are not part of the ethnic group.
The only way this can ever be achieved is through ethnic cleansing and you’re literally asking me if I’m in favour of that and the answer is fuck no
Not to mention that Israel isn’t even really for the Jewish people as a whole. There were Jewish Palestinians living there before Israel was established. They suffered. Ethiopian Jewish women were sterilized without their consent by Israel. Holocaust survivors in Israel largely ended up in poverty while Israeli Jews called them weak for being victims of genocide. Israel doesn’t even do what it says on the box. That’s what you get with the kind of ideology that desires an ethnostate. There are always out-groups, even among the people the state claims to be for.
It can represent biracial, triracial, and among other people of mixed races. Multiraciality represents having multiple racial identities in one’s ancestry.
its a term me and @gay-otlc made up as an opposite to “queer”!
Historically “straight” (slang for normal) was the opposite of queer (slang for weird), but that came from a time where the boundary between sexuality and gender wasn’t as recognized & as a result, “straight” became synonymous with heterosexuality. Using “straight” to mean non-queer now can be alienating to folks like transhets, who may feel attached to the word straight while also being queer. Lots of people use “cishet” but that only addresses two aspects of non-queerness, and if you add in more it just gets clunkier to say.
In the same way that queer is an umbrella term that describes someone/something that deviates from the norm of gender/sex/sexuality, square is someone/something that is the norm. “Square” is another term that was used to mean normal, which is why it was chosen. S also wrote a cool post somewhere about how a square is made of four straight lines, which shows how being part of the norm comes from being cis+het+allo+perisex.
Here is the post where we came up with the term, and here’s a post where I elaborate on the four straight lines thing! I’m biased, but I think square is a neat term and I’d be excited if it got more widespread.
on the note of how the definition of “transgender” has shifted, i was also intrigued by this line from transgender warriors:
Although it’s important to mark the broad boundaries of “lesbian, gay, and bi” in order to fight the oppression and build community, what happens to the borders of these categories for the trans community when the dunes of sex and gender shift? When a masculine female-to-male cross-dresser is married to a bisexual drag queen, is this a heterosexual relationship? The trans population is a reminder that not everyone who is heterosexual is straight!
I know “straight” has been used as the antithesis to “queer,” but I had never seen anyone say specifically that you can be heterosexual and non-straight
I know there are transhet people who have an attachment to straight as a label & I love them for their pride in their sexuality, but I do kind of wish we could bring back this understanding of straight as not equally heterosexual (which I imagine is only associated with sexuality because it’s the only way the trans-ignorant gay movement thought of queerness) but as non-queer, normative in terms of both sexuality AND gender, because I think its useful to have a word for that in the same way it’s useful to have queer
I think my reasons for preferring “straight” to “non-queer” are:
“Queer” already has the definition of weird/strange/bent, which makes “straight” a good mirror (& given how many assimilationists hate the term queer for embracing weirdness, I like emphasizing that aspect of queerness even more)
I think having a term of its own that isn’t just a reference to identity (unlike “non-queer” or “(allo)cishet”) gives it the same poetic power that queer does to describe a quality & kind of action within society. in that like… “queer” is a quality, its not just the state of being x identity but of having a non-normative position in society as it relates to sex and sexuality and gender, and you can also use it as a verb. I feel like “straight” has the potential to make it clear there’s a similar quality/action relating to reinforcing the normativity of sex/gender.
I think there could be some interesting use of it in the context of both erasure and assimilation; the straightening of transmascs in history by interpreting their gender/sexuality through a normative lens, the straightening of gay relationships by idealizing the “white picket fence three kids and a dog proud americans” model of relationship. This also emphasizes that “queer” doesn’t just have essence in comparison to a boring, shallow “normal.” Straightness also has essence & presence and plays an active role in reinforcing normativity and preventing true liberation.
But I also understand that “straight = heterosexual” is pretty deeply entrenched. I don’t know if there’s a chance of challenging that association, except maybe in academic contexts.
I definitely agree with those points! But I think given the prevalence of exclusionism and the idea that aspec folks or trans folks who identify as straight (or are labeled as straight) don’t count as queer, I don’t want to give more ammunition to the idea that straight and queer are polar opposites, if that makes sense. And in the context of transhet folks specifically, being straight is something that can be extremely gender affirming, so it could be hurtful to take away the identify of straightness that they’ve fought for
If I’m understanding you correctly, maybe something along the lines of heternormative would serve this purpose? Like, the “white picket fence three kids and a dog proud americans” couple could be gay and otherwise live a heternormative life, while a trans person could be straight and still not live a heternormative life. I don’t think heternormative is the exact right word still, but I was looking for a word that meant “conforming to the rigid societal norms of gender and sexuality” and that was the one I thought of.
I think due to the way straight = heterosexual is so deeply ingrained in us nowadays, we couldn’t really flip back to using it the way Leslie Feinberg was using it, without making exclusionists go “see! The straight aces/aros/transes really aren’t queer!” and making queerhets feel like either their gender or queerness is being invalidated.
Yeah, that (straight being so linked to heterosexuality & not giving ammunition to queerhetero-phobic rhetoric) is definitely valid.
Maybe we could just repurpose a synonym for “normie” for that purpose. Because personally the thought of finding non-queers & assimilationists “squares” is extremely funny.
Queers get to be fun geometric shapes and everyone else is a square. I like this idea.
Meninœ/garotœ/moçœ, meninoe/garotoe/moçoe or menineo/garoteo/moceo: the combination of menino/garoto/moço (boy/guy/dude) and menine/garote/moce (enby/nonbin/xent); enboy in Portuguese. It’s similar to zenino.
Garotæ/Moçæ/Meninæ Pride Flag
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Meninæ/garotæ/moçæ, meninae/garotae/moçae or meninea/garotea/mocea: the combination of menina/garota/moça (girl/gal) and menine/garote/moce (nby/nbi); girlby in Portuguese. It’s similar to zenina.
Garotoa/Moçoa/Meninoa Pride Flag
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Meninoa/garotoa/moçoa, meninao/garotao/moçao or menin@/garot@/moç@: the combination of menina/garota/moça (girl/gal) and menino/garoto/moço (boy/guy); boygirl/girlboy (birl/burl/ambirl) in Portuguese. It’s similar to zeninoa/zeninao/zenin@.
I love you, bihets. I love you, bi lesbians. I love you, gaybians. I love you, cistrans. I love you, febfems, mebfems, and others.. I love you, turigirls, lesboys, straightbians, panhets, omnihets. I love you, queer folks with contradicting labels.
Your identity is not pointless. You’re not “___ at the end of the day”. You’re not invalid. Your identity isn’t “some weird meme”. I’m so sorry this site treats it like a joke. I’m so sorry people refuse to understand.
Schiznull{boy/guy/man} someone who identifies as male, but really has a disconnect from gender in general due to being schizophrenic. Only to be used by those who are schizophrenic / questioning schizophrenic
Schiznull{girl/gal/woman}- someone who identifies as female, but really has a disconnect from gender in general due to being schizophrenic. Only to be used by those who are schizophrenic / questioning schizophrenic
Schiznull{enby/nonbin}- someone who identifies as nonbinary, but really has a disconnect from gender in general due to being schizophrenic. Only to be used by those who are schizophrenic / questioning schizophrenic
Schiznullxeno- someone who identifies as xenogender, but really has a disconnect from gender in general due to being schizophrenic. Only to be used by those who are schizophrenic / questioning schizophrenic
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Just read an article that used the abbreviation ‘msm’ for ‘men who have sex with men’ and I think it’s something we could really utilise within the aromantic and aspec communities.
eg) XLX – loving
wlw/ mlm/ nblw/ nblm/ nblnb/ wlm etc.
eg) XSX – having sex
wsw/ msm/ nbsm/ nbsw/ nbsnb/ wsm etc.
eg) XRX – in a relationship (you can define this however you want: romantic, sexual, neither, both, queerplatonic, other, unlabelled etc)
wrw/ mrm/ nbrm/ nbrw/ nbrnb/ wrm etc.
like this could be such a useful tool for easily differentiating experiences within informational communication!!
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Fujoshi or fujo: term for female fans who enjoy any media works or fanworks with romantic relationships between men, typically yaoi; a fujin woman. Achillean/vincian: queer attraction to men (QLM); man or man-aligned folk loving men or man-aligned folx (MLM/NBLM/MLNB/NLM/MLN); man-loving queer (MLQ).
Useful for multigender people and queer mlm who reclaim fujo(shi) slur/slang.
Cupiofray: being cupio- in a fray- way (or being fray- in a cupio- way), or experiencing a mix of the two, or being in the midway between both fray and cupio.
For example, desiring certain forms of relationship while not feeling attraction, then they feel attraction but loose it after an emotional or deep connection with a person; desiring a specific form of relationship even when they are not attracted anymore in the attraction associated with the type of relationship.
It includes mesi/grey areas, depending on the perspectives it could be allospec, aspec, pomospec, quoispec, etc. or simply cupiospec.
Himedanshi (姫男子, “princess boy”): a slang term for male fans of yuri media or otherwise enjoy any media works or fanworks with romantic relationships between women; himejin man. Sapphic: a term for woman-loving queer individuals (WLQ) or queer attraction to women (QLW); an umbrella term for those who are women or woman-aligned attracted to women or woman-aligned folks (WLW/NBLW/NLW/WLN/WLNB).
This flag can be used in any way for whatever reason. It includes sapphix who reclaim himedanshi and multigender folks who feel described by these terms, for example.
Gender shuffler, also known as gender shuffling, is the act of mixing and matching two or more genders. One can also change the number of genders at one time.
Flag source: LGBTQIA+ Wikitide (formerly LGBTA+ Miraheze/Fandom Wiki).
hey since ASAB terms are sort of becoming the next “biological (fe)male”. reminder that ASAB terms simply describe what was observed and assigned by someone else when you were born. It is/was your Legal Sex. not everyone who was AMAB is a “biological male”. or vice versa.
use more terms that don’t exclude people! say perisex/dyadic! there’s even single-word terms that mean “perisex/biological (fe)male!”: say müllerian! say wolffian!
expand your queer vocabulary to better describe various experiences!!! synonyms exist for a reason!! just start Looking Shit Up I promise it’s so much fun! I love learning!!!!!!
Endogenogender (endogenous gender or gender endogeny/endogeneity): a gender experience tied to intrapersonal/internal factors (eg. how you see yourself); the gender one externalizes from the inside.
Exogenogender Pride Flag
Exogenogender (exogenous gender or gender exogeny/exogeneity): the gender one internalizes from the outside; a gender experience tied to external/extrapersonal factors (ex.: how others see you or how the environment around you affects you).
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✧Trinsnec is a term for when one is both cis and trans, and also neither. It may be considered multigender but doesn’t have to be. It is related to Trisgender.
Incuthero or parthero: a new term for suptilic hetero-everything (periangled heteroattractional/heteroaffectional) people; someone who don’t want relationship (of any kind) or proximity with people of gender(s) alike their own while still attracted, at least, to differently gendered folks.
Werwolffian, werolffian or werewolffian: wergender wolffian.
Wifwolffian or wifolffian: wifgender wolffian.
Wifmullerian or wifmüllerian: wifgender müllerian.
Wermüllerian, weremullerian, weremüllerian or wermullerian: wergender mullerian.
Wergender: man, male, boy, or guy; or binary male;
Wifgender: woman, female, girl, or gal; binary female;
Wolffian: someone whose fetal development favored the mesonephric duct;
Müllerian: someone whose fetal development favored the paramesonephric ducts.
It should be noted that these terms can be used regardless of gender modality, pronouns, or hormonal rates. Plus they may or may not alter their sex traits, depending on their empirical subjectivity.
Where one’s paranoia, or PPD, affects their romantic attraction. Rather it be they are afraid to get into a romantic relationship due to paranoia/PPD, or paranoia “restricts” them in any way when in a romantic relationship, or trying to get in a romantic relationship. Could also be defined in other ways as an individual sees fit.
Paranoidsexual
Where one’s paranoia, or PPD, affects their sexual attraction. Rather it be they are afraid to get into a sexual relationship due to paranoia/PPD, or paranoia “restricts” them in any way when in a sexual relationship, or trying to get in a sexual relationship. Could also be defined in other ways as an individual sees fit.
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(this is a list of informative sources, materials, stores, charities, books, documentaries etc to better help Palestinians, learn about the Palestinian struggle, and educate yourselves on us as a people. This list will be added on to with more links as they are recommended to me.)
“Being bi means all the attraction you feel is gay” NOT ME. All my attraction is not only hetero, it’s hetero in the most off-putting way possible. I like men in the fetishistic yaoi fangirl way and I like women in the creepy mouth-breathing guy in your workplace way
My attraction is pretty much characterized as like, that one person who decorates their workspace with printouts of various BNHA characters. Just blasting massively unpleasant vibes in every direction, setting off people’s sexual Geiger counters to “Oh, Eugh” levels
I’m like a chaser if chasers were also into cis people. I’m like a Type O universal chaser. I’m fetishizing mundane features you’ve never even heard of. Salivating and not quite blinking enough as I tell you you have exquisite elbows
Liberal queers put off the rainbow flag to put on the SS uniform the moment anything Muslim is mentioned
Btw this is part of the historical revisionist zionist propaganda that claims that “ArAbS dEsTrOyEd ThE tEmPlE”, when it was the Romans who did around the year 70, some 7 centuries before the creation of Islam, and the ‘ArAbS’ built Al-Aqsa mosque there where the empty plot was, based on the Night Journey location, over 700 years later. Even liberal zionists often believe this ahistorical trash and it’s part of why they never talk about the desecration of Al-Aqsa mosque by settlers. Because they think it’s deserved / payback for an act of antisemitism they’re blaming us for. If you see someone talking like this, like Palestinians, Arabs, or Muslims ‘DESTROYED THE TEMPLE’ that’s a lying fascist.
is this nonbinary person actually “male presenting”, or did you just decide that based on your arbitrary idea of maleness?
is this nonbinary person actually “female presenting”, or did you just decide that based on your arbitrary idea of femaleness?
perhaps they’re just “presenting” as themselves and your binary biases are clouding your judgement?
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unfortunately i have to see discourse on my dash every day that makes me think some of y’all are really only posturing about the whole being a gender weirdo freak thing
“can you treat a trans woman as an equal if she has visible facial hair, or a trans man who has visible breasts?” is a good starting point but let me ask you some more questions.
could you have a normal conversation with a 50 year old transsexual who still considers himself a mother to his son? can you be in community with retransitioners and genderqueer people with non-normative transition trajectories? can you have a nice chat with someone who was afab and calls themself transfemme, or with someone who was amab and calls themself transmasc?
and even more! do you welcome the guy in a dress who calls himself a transvestite and has been doing drag every saturday for the past 10 years to your pride parade? are you willing to hear out the young woman who had bottom surgery at 18 and now kinda wishes she didn’t? do you actually respect the people who decide not to go on hrt or to get surgery due to their family’s medical history?
they may be hypothetical to you, but those are the people i have met and hang out with every day.
and you might answer yes to all of these, obviously, but could you actually say that when actually meeting them? because i’ve seen for myself that, no, the hypothetical and reality don’t always align.
(first picture) [in bold] The Arab Perspective [end bold]
Iraq has invaded Kuwait. George Bush has ordered troops and planes and ships to Saudi Arabia. We ask you to think while you read the newspapers and watch the news. To look for anti-Arab bias. To be aware. How different is Iraq’s invasion of Kuwait from the U.S. invasion of Panama? Where was the world outcry when the U.S. invaded Panama? Why is the U.S. economy more important than the Iraqi economy? the Panamanian economy? the Palestinian economy? the Lebanese economy? Where was the condemnation of Israel when that country invaded and occupied Lebanon, murdering 10,000 people? Israel has invaded and controls territories from three Arab countries – Lebanon, Syria and Palestine. Ask yourself why can Israel annex East Jerusalem and the Golan Heights and occupy the Gaza Strip and the West Bank without public outcry – let alone a military blockade?
(second image) What have you heard from the people of Kuwait? Since when did oil in Kuwait and Saudi Arabia become U.S. (our) oil? Why is the U.S. so willing to invest money to wage a war against Iraq and not invest money and resources to help people with cancer and AIDS? We ask you to ask yourself – what is the Arab perspective, to look beyond the blatant, imperialistic, racist and neocolonialist disinformation. When you hear people talking about this crisis is the term “madman” used? Ask yourself, what information is presented in the press about Arab people, Arab leaders and Arab countries/culture/history? Isn’t it interesting that in the months leading up to the Iraqi invasion the [Chronicle in italics] ran two extensive articles on the “madman” Hussein, calling him every emotionally laden name in the book while minimally addressing his actions and policies? [Newsweek in italics] magazine also ran such an article. Are we being “prepared for war?”
[in bold] Arab Lesbian & Bisexual Women’s Network P.O. Box 46526 San Francisco, CA 94114 [end bold]
Girlfag : A term for those who identify with “fag”, alongside femininity, womanhood, or similar. This may be for those who are GNC, genderfuck, etc., it may be for transfem who still identify with being a f*g, it may be for those who are on the cusp between being a gay man and a woman, and many other usages.
Boydyke : A term for those who identify with “dyke”, alongside masculinity, manhood, or similar. This may be for those who are GNC, genderfuck, etc., it may be for transmascs who still identify with being a d*ke, it may be for those who are on the cusp between being a gay woman and a man, and many other usages.
“i’m going to kill myself” tired. overused. actively harmful to you.
“i’m going to commit an act of terrorism against the united states government” beautiful. reasonable. makes both your mental health and the world so much better.
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There are lots of terms in aspec spaces like queerplatonic, alterous, or tertiary that essentially just mean “not platonic or romantic,” but platonic essentially just means “not romantic,” and romantic doesn’t have any accurate definition as far as I’m aware. That’s not to say that any of these terms aren’t valuable, I just think everything is fake.
Exactly this.
Every time I try to find out what the definition of romantic love is, and what makes it different from friendship or any other kind of love, the only explanation allos can muster is something like “special feelings” or “different feelings”, so yeah, I think it’s pretty safe to say that it’s all fake and we’re all just making up words for things that are ultimately subjective and indefinable.
no bc literally! Every person you ask will give you different answers, and objectively, none of them are correct (spoiler; because there is no correct one):
“romance is when you want to spend the rest of your life with a person, they’re your everything” so many people do this with friends, so that can’t be it
“romance is when you feel romantic attraction to them, your heart will start beating faster and you’ll only want to be around them!” I’ve gathered though that this mellows out over time – people who have been married for years won’t get nervous around eachother anymore, but their love is still considered romantic. Similarly, you can feel like this about a person you really want to be friends with.
“romance is when you want to kiss them, or hold hands and call eachother cringe petnames!” People kiss for the heck of it, because it’s fun. And loads of queerplatonic partners kiss, with or without sex! Holding hands and cringe petnames I literally do with my friends. I’m touch starved, not crushing.
“romance is when you think about that person all the time” cool. I don’t think there’s a second in which my friends aren’t on my mind.
and lastly, people in queerplatonic relationships, who may or may not experience alterous attraction, do these things! not everyone, but some will do some of these, others will do none and some will do all of them!! But they’re not in a romantic relationship.
Anyways romance is fake and attraction is inherently alterous because we’re humans, and relationships, sexualities, feelings and intimacies mean different things to each. individual. person.
That’s called parallelism or obliquity in linguistics. And platonism and platonicity are philosophical concepts. Romanticism is socially constructed. I’m glad people are more awake now about these empirical things.
I’ve been seeing a lot of talk about transmisogyny and it’s really annoying because while yes it is a thing a lot of trans women (transbians mainly lol) are like way too chronically online about this issue. Like tell me you dislike trans men without telling me. Their open contempt really shows when they say shit like “im just saying trans men can use transmisogyny against trans women!!” And then you search their blog and all they talk about is how like afab nbs and trans men (which they talk about the exact same) all like hate trans women and if you call it out AT ALL they’re like “so you think transmisogyny is fine?” or “Tumblr user don’t misinterpret post challenge!”
(clippy voice) It looks like you’re trying not to say the quiet part out loud. What if instead you said:
I’ve been seeing a lot of talk about misogyny and it’s really annoying because while yes it is a thing a lot of women (lesbians mainly lol) are like way too chronically online about this issue. Like tell me you dislike men without telling me. Their open contempt really shows when they say shit like “im just saying men can use misogyny against women!!” And then you search their blog and all they talk about is how like men all like hate women and if you call it out AT ALL they’re like “so you think misogyny is fine?” or “Tumblr user don’t misinterpret post challenge!”
I’m not talking about misogyny tho, im talking about transmisogyny, it is a form of misogyny, but im not talking about cis men and women and misogyny, im talking about transmisogyny
I dont think theres anything wrong with saying trans men can abuse transmisogyny, but like, why trans men? Basically anyone can abuse transmisogyny. Like, I don’t think the main abusers of transmisogyny are trans men, I think it’s cis people and terfs who think trans women are disgusting and use trans women’s identity to label them as creeps.
I just think the fixation with trans men (and afab trans people, which people who talk about this stuff will very commonly just put into the same group, while ignoring intersex people entirely) is a little weird and it comes off as they dislike trans guys
The “joke” was that if you take the word “trans” out of complaints about transmisogyny theory, they’re just word for word MRA rhetoric. Getting mad at women pointing out misogyny does not become more palatable because the women were born with dicks.
Nobody is saying that most transmisogyny is intracommunal. If it feels like transfems are focusing too much on the patterns of transmisogyny perpetrated by cafab trans ppl, it may be because we have to keep repeating the same points over and over again on account of ppl refusing to listen to them. When we say “cis men oppress transfems,” nobody disagrees. When we say “cis women oppress transfems,” the trans community agrees. When we say “trans ppl who are not transfems often treat us the same as cis ppl do,” suddenly the situation becomes more nuanced and transfems are dividing the community by pointing this out.
Every other week there’s new discourse coming from cafab trans ppl about how transfems are ontologically evil because of our male socialization and how we could never understand the uniquely female experience of (insert thing that happens to transfems all the time). Maybe we have to keep yelling about cafab trans ppl’s capacity and tendency to harm us because they’re constantly jerking each other off about how vagina magic makes them ontologically incapable of harming anyone. Maybe you’re blissfully unaware of dudes cooking up new ways to do the worst gender politics ever to justify calling transfems they don’t like stupid cunts, but I assure you it happens, and we shouldn’t have to stay silent about it.
Transfems are not the community’s nagging bitch of a wife for fun.
Compiling some terms/posts useful for people questioning if intersex
Note: If a definition in is in quotes, the source material it is quoted from is linked to by the relevant term.
Highly relevant terms
Extersex – “[A] term for those who do not know whether they are dyadic or intersex. It could be because one feels as though they might be some form of intersex, but are unable to medically confirm it, or cannot confirm what intersex variation it is. It may also be for those who have a variation that may be considered intersex, but are uncertain if they want to identify as intersex.” – @themogaidragon
Quoisex – “[An] umbrella term for anyone who doesn’t quite understand their sex or doesn’t want to define their sex.” – LGBTQIA+ Wiki Note: I understand this as more general than extersex, and would include people questioning if altersex. See the wiki entry for subtypes (quoigonadal, quoichest, etc)
Altersex – “An umbrella term to describe having or wanting primary or secondary sex traits/characteristics that do not align with the binary sex model that a significant portion of society has adopted. It is primarily used by those who are not intersex and are trans+ and wish to or transition specifically to have a body that does not fit the aforementioned sex model.” –@intersex-questions Note: Being altersex does not make somebody intersex. I include it because many people questioning their intersex status realize this is what they’re looking for.
Anisohormonal – “Aniso (unequal/uneven) + hormonal (relating to hormones). An individual who has an imbalance of hormones for any number of reasons. Such individuals may or may not also be intersex.” – @sproutflags Note: includes non-intersex variations such as diabetes.
Subtypes of intersex people
Note: In my experience most people questioning if they’re intersex have a hormonal intersex variation like PCOS, so I’m skewing towards this accordingly.
Dysgonadal – “[having] dysfunctional gonads. This includes agonadal (no gonads) and hypogonadal. Also known as gonadal agenesis/dysgenesis, dyssex and nullogonadal/asexed (null sex or avaginal/aphallia).” – @arco-pluris Note: contrasted with eugonadal – “people with functional gonads (reproductive cells). Includes hypergonadal (hyperfunctional gonads)”
Interhormonal – “Someone who is intersex and anisohormonal and/or feels that being intersex has impacted their identity as anisohormonal in some way and/or that their identity as anisohormonal has impacted their identity as intersex in some way.” – @sproutflags
Intermeer – “a term used to describe all intersex variations that are caused by an overproduction of horomones (testosterone, estrogen, or both.)” – LGBTQIA+ Wiki Variations include: AES, FMPP, PCOS. Part of The Autre System for categorizing intersex variations.
Intermindre – “a term used to describe all intersex variations that are caused by a lack of horomones (testosterone, estrogen, or both.)” Note: The wiki lists AIS and EIS as examples although they are not due to a lack of hormones, but rather a lack of sensitivity to them. Part of The Autre System for categorizing intersex variations. See the wiki for more subtypes. Thank you to anon asker who pointed out the AIS/EIS issue.
Mesosex – “[A] person who has an intersex variation, but one which does not conform to perisex (non-intersex) ideas of what intersex is. For example, people who have intersex traits that are considered "mild”, or who have variations such as PCOS Hyperandrogenism and Poland Syndrome.“ – @ipso-faculty
Interdynamic – "a term for individuals whose secondary sexs [sp] characteristics do not match with the typical secondary sex binary.” – @omegai
Autoandromimetophile flag | Autogynemimetophile flag
Autoandromimetophilia (AAMP): attraction to being a trans man or similar (i.e. female-to-male cross-dresser).
Autogynemimetophilia (autogynandromorphophilia, AGMP, or autoGAMP/AGAMP): attraction to being a trans woman or similar (i.e. male-to-female cross-dresser).
The colours come from the otter flag, and rearranged to fit the orientationgender flag style. There’s 2 versions, one with the otter symbol, and one just plain stripes. I also added a white outline around the symbol to visually separate it from the background colours.
Etçab/etçaby, or abynodiean/abinodiean: being both abinary/aphorian and anonbinary/anodiean/etcetarian; or considering both abingender and etcegender complementing each other within ones genderness(es).
Midcetarian or midbinodiean: being both midbinary and anonbinary; considering both midbinary and ectetarian/anodiean/etcegender as complementing each other in ones genderness(es).
Incubogay: a new term for suptilic homo-everything individuals; someone who don’t want relationship (of any kind) or proximity with women while still attracted to, at least, men and/or masculine individuals (not necessarily aptoma folks).
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Parthenolesbian: a new term for suptilic homo-everything people; someone who don’t want relationship (of any kind) or proximity with men while still attracted, at least, to women and/or feminine folks (not necessarily aptofe individuals).
Coined with help of @mogai-ringo. Help with image transcripts appreciated.
Veldian/turian: gay attraction to men; homo mlm/nblm (gaylm); being queer for men (QLM); nonwoman loving nonwomen (NWLNW, floric/cinthean).
Binary or xorgender: experiencing, at least, one gender from the gender binary; man and/or woman; fem and/or masc. Inclusive of ambinary, binaryfluid, and aptobinary. Sometimes, some midbinary feel included in these definitions, as it’s self-interpretative or self-descriptive.
Possible terms: bindian; velbinary. These are also inclusive of binary people of either gender.
Gender panthetic, apapangender, or panapagender: being identitarianly indifferent towards all genders possible/accessible with ones identity lane and natural condition; the combination of gender apathetic (apagender) and pangender.
coining some new terms because i haven’t seen any for this yet and i’ve been looking
(all of these are highly inspired by the terms and flags for being sex/romance repulsed, sex/romance favorable, and sex/romance indifferent, commonly used by aspec people. i thought i could borrow a lil bit from one of my communities to make terms for my other one <3)
fem repulsed: repulsed by being called feminine terms and/or pronouns, whether or not your gender is feminine.
masc repulsed: repulsed by being called masculine terms and/or pronouns, whether or not your gender is masculine.
neutral repulsed: repulsed by being called neutral terms and/or pronouns, whether or not your gender is neutral.
and that last bit? about the fact that these terms can apply to anyone no matter their gender? its bolded for a reason. anyone can use these. transmascs, transfems, transneutrals, people with xenogenders, people with no gender, cis people, everyone can use them.
i personally am making these because the first one applies to me. Even though I am genderfluid and am very frequently a girl, being referred to as such can and does still make me dysphoric.
the only people who cant use these terms, of course, are TERFs and other bigots, who should instead go eat pavement ❤
(also, if theres already terms for this and im making a fool of myself because i didnt look hard enough, feel free to lmk)
autoandrophile = a paraphilia that doesn’t exist, basically someone (usually afab) being attracted to themself as a man
autohomoeroticism = a paraphilia that doesn’t exist, first theorized by blanchard (the same guy who did autogynephilia) and while he also came up with autoandrophilia, he believes in homoeroticism more and doesn’t actually gaf about “autoandrophilia”. as a concept, autohomoeroticism is an afab person’s fetish for themselves as a gay man.
i’m reclaiming them because i’ve been called those two words a lot by people
There’s also autosapphoerotic for trans sapphics and I strongly reclaim that lol. Though I’m only that platonically, as I would fall under the HsTs descriptions 😸
the anti fujoshi crowd can actually make some good points about how cishet women fetishize gay men however you have to be a fucking idiot to think that a few straight women who happen to like yaoi also fetishizing real life gay men are equivalent to the hate that gay trans men have received due to the discourse. like do you just not understand how this happened or do you hate gay trans men. i’m not going to stick around long enough to find out
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Gyodi– (Giodi-, Gynodi-, Gynodia-, Ginodi-, Ginodia-, or Giodia-): an orientation qualifying affectional distaste towards women; feeling affectionally contempt or a deep repugnance directed at women. To be used as gyodisexual, gyodiromantic, gyodiplatonic, etc.
Odi- comes from odium, mixed with -gyn-/-gin- word root. Despite its etymology, this doesn’t mean the same as feminophobia, feminomisia, misogyny, nor phobogyny (the reverse of philogyny). Also not meant to be necessarily actionally repulsed or aversed to.
This can be circumstantially harmless, therefore we preserve this identity with nofemaric, panaspec, and anattractional people in mind. But it’s philosophically open to anyone else.
The whole “I wish I could be with a woman, but instead I’m stuck with my stupid, gross husband/boyfriend” sentiment I see repeated in bi circles is just the “progressive” queer version of the boomer “I hate my wife” jokes
if he’s stupid and gross you should leave him and if he isn’t you’re just being cruel for internet points and he should leave you
Context: sociopolitical is self-identitarianly, biopolitical is heteronomous. These are meant for those who reclaim politically (or conceptually/philosophically) manhood/masculinity, femininity/womahood, or non-binariness.
Image descriptions pending (feel free to add and I will add back in the original post crediting you). – Ap
please do not ever forget that the “americas” are stolen land. that we survive despite genocide. that we still exist despite continuing colonialism. solidarity with indigenous people around the world.
Titted: someone with tits (nipples, breasts or chests, depending on one’s perspectives on their corporeality/physical body).
While it’s not an identity or a sexuality itself, it’s useful for gender nonconforming people whose body is “unexpected” for their gender (i.e. titted men, titted non-binary people, altersex people such as altpect, titted androgynous people, titted individuals with beards/mustache or substantial body hair, etc.).
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